What abstains us from doing something positive even after knowing how to execute the same???? Five Major aspects!

 Hi Everyone,

Greetings!

For last many days I had not written a blog and hence I came up with something where even my own example can be given where at times why we do not extend our positive outlook even after being aware that it gives us rational energy!!! :-) :-) :-)

Being positive has several meanings if we intend to take out those many! However to become positive it takes a toll! After meditating for so many years, Lord Ravana used his spiritual power to dupe or trouble people and hence there is something called as accident prone area or grey area which proves to be dangerous at times and hence it is inevitable to identify the same in our own personality since we all are not perfect but want to be appropriate to the extent possible! Hence working on those loopholes can help us in knowing where we get stuck with something negative in different situations!

The best example can be given of Mr. Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook who in a very short period of time made FB a platform where the whole world exists with apt presence and we can search for anybody in the universe! This digital transformation was possible due to tremendous positive outlook towards innovation and the best part is; even after getting bombarded with legal or professional allegations, he is confronting the same rationally and keeping his stake at his best with respect to FB where even we could witness that how rapidly he could take over Whatsapp and make it bigger and precious with demand and need both sailing in the same boat!

There are majorly few aspects which need to be stated over here when in situation, our own behavioral pattern abstains us from doing something positive even after knowing how to execute the same!!!!

1. Our own misconceptions or adamant pattern to prove something wrong

2. Our habit of non acceptance 

3. Egoism is another important aspect to think of

4. Our approach of not making changes or getting confused without experimenting things and verify the results of every aspect with the same positive outlook

5. Keeping limited sense of Satisfaction where our own limited boundaries keep us demotivated

Our habits which have been getting continued for years together where when the stage comes to re-define the life process with different set of habit nurturing aspects, we fail to make that transformation just by sheet thought that it may not give us targeted results! Idleness/Lethargy, Ambiguity in thoughts, Falsifying image of our own life, Envying others or many such things get depicted through our own personality! There is another thing which is very important and i.e lack of focused life, lack of dreams/goals in life! 

It is not viable to blame people who help you in having right approach for life! And getting confused is the best way to avoid doing things! The human being is that way very clever in showing other's impotency in ability but they do not realize that actually it is their inability! 

Start with your own conviction and it is the best life achievement where no blame game gets played ever!

So if you agree, then open the doors which you were avoiding to enter into and let us start progressively by taking into consideration every failure which will come your way to face! 

Me,too....have started working on it! not that me,too movement! Mind well....:-) :-) 

Be positive....do not calculate...just experience and feel! 

Regards,

Amit Deokule

Life Balance/Master Spirit Life Coach at CCA, Canada

Executive Leadership Coach at MGSCC

NLP Certified Practitioner, Udemy

Musician- Singer, Writer/Poet, Tabla Player, Composer

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As a NLP Practitioner what are those five aspects which matter a lot to improve mindfulness?

Dear All,

For last many years I have been working as a Life Balance Coach and it is being seen that maintaining mindfulness is a challenge now a days. As a coach I was realizing this fact but after doing NLP practitioner's certification, I started realizing a bit of more so far as mindfulness is concerned!

Mindfulness is like a car or any vehicle where  it will get maintained if you will have proper psyche to take care of the same and if you will safeguard your own interest to preserve it! Similarly we have lot of things in our life to relate to because Mind is a complex structure of every person where it is very challenging to cope up with the same. Neuro Linguistic Programming is a huge mind game of variety of aspects where this tool can help people in balancing two sides of mindfulness.

After I started thinking as a NLP practitioner, I realized one thing and i.e. if we will consider Mindfulness as our focus in life and everything getting revolved around the same, things would be easier. And that is why there are five aspects which according to me are equally important while growing in life with mindfulness!

1. Cleansing of negative thoughts continuously as if it is a habit of everyday activity
2. Introspection as a process of everyday since it will release bad energy and positive energy will be filled in
3. Taking in stride every disturbing incident as if it is a part and parcel of learning and process of karmic effects which keep popping up at every step of life
4. Focusing on future with determined efforts irrespective of hurdles, stumbling blocks which keep bothering you as per your karma
5. Live in the present moment with whatever we have and with full acceptance keep on living and leading with proper strategy

In other terms in one or two words I would enumerate the above mentioned facts in this manner-

1. Cleansing
2. Introspection
3. Learning
4. Focused approach
5. Present moment

To sum up how NLP can be defined as far as mindfulness is concerned-

1. NLP is a way of life! It is like you start writing a code and then it traverses you through the whole natural systematized process of mindfulness.
2. NLP is an introspective journey where the person absolutely learns all external strategies to coincide with inner core! So it is like filtration process alike all 7 chakras of our body!
3. NLP is like nature's pride where every beautiful or ugly has equal importance as if two sides of one coin and by looking at an ugly side....gradually one starts enjoying the beauty of the nature quite naturally!
4. NLP is like imagination getting converted into reality where acceptance to everything lively and developing a habit of a visionary have been given a genuine importance!
5. NLP is the journey from Innocence to Innocence irrespective of the age because that is how it will show the person the way of life!
6. NLP is an invisible music of mindfulness. It is an aesthetic of rhythm and melody of mind to have a balance in sync! Maintaining the crescendo of each tune is what NLP teaches us!

So friends/colleagues/clients/well-wishers are we ready to absorb the above concepts, digest them and take appropriate actions which will improve your life to the fullest! We do not want to be perfectionist but we want to be like perfectionists, right?

Thanks and Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Executive Leadership Coach
Certified NLP Practitioner
International affiliations
www.soulomkar.co.in
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Musician- Tabla Player, Singer, Composer, Poet, Writer

By remaining in the competition how can you stay focused with your potentials by not being competitive?

Hi All Respected Professionals,

Greetings!

After a long time I am here to write something about something.....!!!! :-) :-) :-)

What is that something? It is nothing but staying focused with our passionate potentials!

But at times, what is that which blocks our thought process and that is nothing but competition!

Competition is an inevitable phenomena but how can we stay strong by focusing our potentials by not being competitive? can be a question!

Fighting spirit is a feeling and identifying exact strength of our mind is a qualitative process to follow!

Economics has some relation at every step of everyone's life! Our wants, needs...our demands and supplies according to the same....fluctuations in numbers....wealth creation....monetary products...all these and such similar concepts keep on affecting every one of us as calculations has become a part and parcel of our life!

Likewise competition talks about calculated risks and this in turn disturbs the position of the human being in the outside world!

Competition is like a proliferation( (we can assume it is like spreading of amoeba) which is not healthy when it touches over-excessive limit of its original ability or strength! Competition is like a share market where fluctuations are bound to occur! Competition is like dreams unlimited or nightmares! Competition is like attraction where primarily it looks super dynamic to follow but after peculiar extent it becomes confusing as one has to choose one out of ample of products!

But to avoid any wrongdoing or any mishap out of this concept, how can we well equip ourselves?

Five aspects to keep yourself strong by focusing your potentials by not being competitive-

1. Considering yourself as unique entity of your own life by asking who you are, what the purpose of living life is-
2. Respecting your own strengths and weaknesses as they are and recognizing threats and opportunities to secure future actions by being aware of your behavior!-
3. Identifying  your potentials at the right time with right perspective-
4. Defining your needs and wants  and be honest on your path-
5. Keep on forming a community of variety of people but those who respect you, those we can be guide or mentor for you or who can be your well wishers always and vice versa!-


It is utterly necessary to self actualize few aspects with conviction and it will help you to authenticate your position in the outside world! For the above aspects I think there is no need to give explanation as they are self explanatory!

One aspect which I have not jotted down in the above points and it is like a hidden treasure and i.e. Habit nurturing. Our habits effect or affect our life and right grooming on our habits will decide the course of action in terms of facing the competition or focusing on right things where competition will not bother you. Can we say, "Let us not have competition with ourselves also!" ???

We have learnt to be competitive where Lord Rama never had a competition in his life and Mahabharata always taught us to be competitive. In Western culture we have always learnt about maintaining ourselves in a cut throat competition. Indian Saints never preached us to be competitive but they spread a word about Bhakti (Taste) which always wins over any adversity in life!

Kali Yuga is just disseminating knowledge about being competitive but this in turn is increasing lot of stress! India is a country where more than 70% of the sector is agricultural sector where actually we are not able to observe competition but farmers are struggling a lot in earning against their produced grains/vegetables/fruits etc. We also should agree that weather conditions are so vulnerable that it is affecting the produce of farmers. On the contrary there is a class of people whose income levels and respective streams involve fierce competition and it is in a way hampering few sectors progressively.

In such a situation, what is the accountability of the human being and it is nothing but focusing all those above five aspects which will keep every human being equal and there will not be anything on discriminatory grounds although we can not have that much perfection and clarity in life for anything!

So how the world was fifty years back and how the world will be after fifty years can be a matter of concern now to mull over! Justice is being served when there are easy ways to progress without politicizing any factual scenario and it is difficult! So friends and professionals let us stay connected with positive outlook and take rational decisions at every step!

Be great be kind...few questions always remain open in any discussion and so is this blog as well! Sharing is the spice of life and it is always with 1% of biased approach and hence no wonder if there is competition as a concept which is fearful for most of the human beings at times and so be remaining in the same how can he or she stay focused with potentials by not being competitive was on the platter, so what do you think....? I am going to have sweet, sour, spicy, delicious, crispy and bitterly in my dinner now! I shall tell you the experience of all items getting served in one go for my dinner and my expression on the same! :-) :-) :-)

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach/Master Spirit Life Coach at CCA, Canada
Executive Leadership Coach at MGSCC
www.soulomkar.co.in
Musician- (Tabla Player, Singer, Poet and Composer)
M.com 

Experiential Artistic Leadership and its modalities/consequences

Hello All Fantastic Professionals,

Greetings!

Hope you all are doing fine and considering Covid-19 as the remedial measure to resurrect your overall vision towards individual life and individuality, you all are prepared! 

Leadership is actually a completeness within itself if we will take it in stride the same concept likewise! Or otherwise it is just a concept for all to carry out in their professional or personal life while performing their respective duties as a part of deliberate system or process!

Some of us will agree to the above statements I have made!

Why do we smile? :-) Because it is our inner core need of life as a matter of quality of expression without which we can not live and our life will be merely hale, right?

It is a natural response which acts like a gratitude for our own life where our life moves ahead due to this ultimate strength! Similarly there are few concepts which feed our personality with lot of action oriented knowledge and on the top I think it is nothing but LEADERSHIP! In such scenario how can we make this concept as an integral part of our life? I want to repeat here once again alike my earlier blogs....We are truly born leaders as after cutting the umbilical chord while taking birth from Mother's womb, the act itself depicts the starting point of leadership in the outside world although it is at a raw level! There are lot of different types of leadership which have been enumerated but I just want to talk about Experiential Artistic Leadership today!

The things could have been covered pertaining to this... earlier but what I want to cover is little different! What is that different?
Just imagine if we will start thinking about greater personalities like Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Mr & Mrs Narayanamurthy, Ratan Tata, Sachin Tendulkar, Akshay Kumar, Hon. Prime Minister Narendraji Modi where the way they have initiated their leadership perspective ahead for their and others' life where distinctively what they have done additionally matters a lot! Can we see something experiential where leadership as an art has been properly exhibited by all of them! Even Rishi Munis from India who have scripted spiritual scriptures like Vedas and Upanishadas or allied ones, all have portrayed experiential leadership by foreseeing things and due to that Leadership as a concept has been formulated as an artistic one! An art has always the terminology of heart involved in it and hence real time experience gained from consequences of life engages right expressions which make sense while acting with responses/reactions!

Using prophetic means do not help us in leadership but foreseeing things and then accordingly putting our coins always configure right perceptions! So before I mention the five elements important for inculcating experiential artistic leadership I want to define the same for all of you-

Leadership should become matured in such a manner where experience at every step should be counted as completeness where heart in it to live will make the same artistic! An artist needs emotional intelligence with passionate approach to look at things differently and the same is the case of the leader because then only the leadership secures that intrinsic value in the same!

Five elements/attributes inculcating this leadership-

1. Create Liveliness in experience at every step- At times, we consider life as dead cells and then liveliness gets lost and actually it becomes an essential factor because then experience is counted! Liveliness entails every small moment getting established as something bigger where consideration would be its success in enjoying it the way it is! You have to be analyzer more than judgemental!

2.  Showing compassion at every step for every being you meet- This is a hardening perspective because it has deliberate feeling of showing compassion for every being but believe me being a good listener helps here a lot! And empathy is second attribute here which supports to have a compassionate approach for every being! Keeping a good smile also can help here. Lord Shrikrishna always preached Lord Arjuna to have a compassionate approach and it was not just Arjuna but all Pandavas because of which they won over 100 Kauravas during the war!

3. Unique power of imagination(larger than life) to live life by considering every moment as the last best opportunity-
This is something where most of the people lack and hence to make experience enriching this is much needed. How this can be attained, by considering that our grief is not just the ultimate one to conclude as a wholesome life process and Happiness does not come frequently in everyone's life but can be achieved at every moment if imagination is dynamic where customization in the same according to the situation brings glory! Watching comic aspects always channelize our imagination. This is just one example and for expanding our own horizon of imagining things every situation teaches us but we must develop our approach the same way.

4. Approach of giving something special or unique everyday for yourself and then others and notify it somewhere to refer to it retrospectively whenever needed.- This is another challenging thing for the human being to develop as a habit! We all have tensions, worries, stress of many things but because of that in return' unique approach can get nurtured if we decide to look at it so! I always wonder how few luggage carriers keep a smile on their face at railway stations or at other places wherever they do the job of carrying luggage for people but still their quickness, efficiency, skillfulness all these skills are mind blowing! Similarly having this delightful approach can help people in developing uniqueness or something niche! Another approach can be how every living or non-living being can be refurbished and rejuvenated for the sake of giving it a meaning and it is possible, believe me! We are taking unnecessary authority to wrongly assume certain things but not authenticating our life with special attitude which can be given a thought of! People should start considering a bigger canvas for their own life first by forgetting the material means of living life and this will eventually give the right outcome.

5. Are you a passionate actor(heroism) of your own life who wants to shape up things out of intricacies with refined approach?- For this.... immediate question can be- Are you a born human being who has sensitivity and passion to lead life? I have seen many normal life heroes who deal with things in a space fabulously as small as a narrow public toilet in the train or flight! I am sorry to mention this but it is a reality! Our expectations make us stereotype human beings in life but in this situation we do not take into account the potential capacity of our own where brain and mind both come in the picture! There are many hardworking people who have come in the city like Mumbai in India where by having an ordinary livelihood they keep higher dreams and they do achieve it because they want to become real life heroes for themselves and others!And actually the kind of helping attitude they have...I can not see the same in a category of middle class...to higher middle or  to even richest one! A real time passionate actor only can do this  and for that matter there is no need to be in Bollywood or such industry!

All the above aspects will nurture one's experiential approach with a matured state of mind and even life as an art will be realized phenomenally well in such cases. And not to forget; this way leadership fundamental will start becoming stronger as life makes you an artist irrespective of any modeled art!

So Experiential Artistic Leadership will give us self contentment in terms of living life as a leader and this will in return will solidify the affinity towards the whole society and the life as a meaningful concept! So friends, professionals, well wishers can we start building this one metaphoric but much seasoned practical concept of leadership which is called as EXPERIENTIAL ARTISTIC LEADERSHIP?

Let us do it now, life is short and current phase is making us realize a lot and this is the core period to enhance our intensity to be in the position of Experiential Artistic Leadership!

Have a great experiential journey ahead and an artistic salute to all!

Your Well wisher and Experiential Artistic Leader-
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Affiliated Member of CCA, Canada
Executive Leadership Coach at Marshall Goldsmith SCC
M.com and Musician
www.soulomkar.co.in
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Are we becoming Selfish, Self Sufficient or Selfless in this critical period of Lockdown?

Dear All,   

Greetings!

Are we experiencing words like Slack, Sluggishness, Scarcity, Slow down, Sickness/Slashing or such similar words in the period of lock down as far as professional era is concerned? Must be....right?

Had it been the other way round where Salvaging, Saving, Smoothing, Soaring, Scaling, Starring or such similar words giving us motivation, things would have been different!!!

However factual things are the things which we have to accept at any cost and the same way we have accepted the present situation courageously and I salute to all for the same!

But there is a hue and cry about "Acceptance" since it is a crucial word to perceive properly! And hence raising a question like Are we becoming Selfish, Self sufficient or Selfless in this phase? ; makes lot of sense, right? It may not be digested properly but contemplating this question and foreseeing events taking place in near future can be a challenge to accept!

Putting this question with three perspectives-
1. Astrologically it has some impact. Here astrology can be anything related to such similar theories where we all have a taste in such elements or we tend to believe them where it can be reiki, shamanism, pranic healing, yoga/meditation, astrology having prophetic means, tarot card reading, regression theory, vibrations theory etc.

2. Developing our own analogy based upon our own experiential journey and relevant consequences. Here it can be practical, emotional or combination of both!

3. Looking at it logically the way people have kept on looking at various aspects of life moments and surroundings!


If you would ask me then looking at the present situation- the ratio out of 100% must be like this-

Selfish- 70%
Self Sufficient- 25%
Selfless- 5%

This is because, we all love our own existence more than anything else in the first instance which is not wrong because actually looking at everyone's life there can not be something wrong or right since empirical moments can not come by giving due intimation! :-)

However, there is another side to look at it- Do we need admiration/popularity/fame? Do we need to gain respect? Do we need to do it for our own happiness/satisfaction?

There can be such similar or completely different perceptions which I don't deny but then somewhere down the line we need to restrict our thinking, right?because otherwise decision making process becomes complex!

This is like, how Mukesh Ambani must be thinking about himself a lot when his name has been dropped from the list of Forbes after the lock down period started or Ratan Tata asking himself, by investing 500 crores in this critical stage,I  have gained respect by doing this or not or any cricketer  like Virat Kohli or bollywood actor like Akshay Kumar considering him self sufficient and then donating for the present critical phase without expecting anything!!!!???? Exclamation and Question both are haunting us, right?

So what will be the right thing to arrive at some conclusion when these three words are coming in the picture-  Selfish- Self Sufficient- Selfless-

Just as a food for thought- Is it valid or is it prudent to change the ratio to-

Selfish- 35%
Self Sufficient- 35%
Selfless- 30% (Why 5% can not be added here because we need to accommodate the same in 100% and Selfless is the most expensive word to perceive where we can give grace percentage like may be 5% more which can be precious! :-) We can not!


Why I am saying this? Because

Before concluding this can make sense to you-

Selfish- The lock down or such situation always gives a feeling to a mediocre in the first place and i.e. How can I Survive myself well?

Self Sufficient- Am I really becoming self sufficient where such situations will never affect my life process at any point in any circumstances?

Selfless- Can I become Selfless where my mindfulness will remain intact at any point since it has a direct and rapid connection with my Karma or may be in forthcoming event of my life it will reflect?

But ideally or looking at present Kali Yuga or World's scenario, there can be five aspects which we can relate to all three above words and then can arrive at concrete conclusion-

1. What is my background and how have I grown up since my childhood where retrospectively few aspects can make a difference?
2. What is my personal intensity to achieve things and my capacity to sustain with my abilities where passion can pop up?
3. How is my approach to look at external things of the world around and internal things of the inner core i.e. mindfulness which is my own world?
4. Am I looking for Satisfaction more or pleasures more where these two things will decide the destiny of my life which is called as life style to put?
5. How concerned I am to relate my life with surroundings where is my purpose of life clear? Is my aim transparent? Is my way of life and to look at life appropriate ultimately where which human values make sense and how relationships make an importance to me and my life on the whole?

I am sure the above questions categorized in five sub sections can surely clarify your vision with respect to these three words and they are Selfish, Self Sufficient and Selfless!!!!

We all know that we decide the destiny or it is destined or destiny is a blend of our own Karma and Science or based upon some spiritual theory, let it be....there is no fixed opinion in this regard as billions of people have billions of reasons and opinions!

So at the outset, Who can change the world, species or humans or spiritual gurus or scientists or nature or.......?

The Comedian seeking the role of Hitler and performing it to the best!
The Main actor taking the position of a side hero whose shot is not for more than a minute but still feels contented!
The person performing any role that comes to his or her way and still without any frustration feels happy and non expectation is a process at every step!
 
After conjuring or while conjuring- the question can be framed up in such manner-

Am I getting disassociated with the world where the words like Selfish, Self Sufficient and Selfless get seen from different mirrors or same mirror or somebody else's mirror where ultimately experiential journey finds quality more than anything else????

Let us define the form!

Good Luck and Stay safe & Healthy All Master Minds!

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach &
Master Spirit Life Coach at
CCA, Canada Member
Executive Leadership Coach at
Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholders Centered Coaching
www.soulomkar.co.in
Musician- Singer, Composer, Poet
M.com

Never Underestimate others or take undue advantage!!!- How to be true and fair to the best possible extent?

Hello Everyone,

Greetings!

After a long time, I got in touch with you! Hope you all are doing fine! 

It is my observation that people are now a days underestimating the person in front of them by hook or crook. Or they are taking undue advantage of the other person! I do not want to mention about the ratio of the same and then arrive at the conclusion because even 0.01 percent of underestimation or undue advantage can spoil the humanly side of any person's story of life!

Conveniently we have learnt to cover up or justify things because again we come down to choices in life! Our wants and needs make sense while talking about underestimating people or taking undue advantage of anyone!

But the basic question being a human is- why do we do that even after knowing what is the matter of wisdom? Or is it nature's rule that we should do this? As there is an ideal example from the nature that if we gaze at many rose flowers at one go then we appreciate the beautiful picture but then while enjoying the beauty of the actual rose, we pay attention towards only two or three maximum, right?

About underestimation or undue advantage it may be like that! But then because of that people fail in showing their actually able performance which is possible in every human's case!
Potential and its identification is that is why necessary!

Shivaji Maharaj from Maharashtra state is the best example of how not to underestimate anyone or even not to take undue advantage of people but pulling out best strengths of the people!  In the industry honorable Narayanamurthy-Sudha Murthy of Infosys and Ratan Tata are the best examples in such scenarios!

I wanted to arrive at some concrete conclusion by thinking about ; how to be true and fair to the best possible extent while churning out things about underestimation and taking the undue advantage of any person!

1. Look at human as a capable human at every step
2. Believe in a philosophy of team building with different potentials
3. Look at only positive side of the story of everyone
4. Respect every entity and maintain that
5. Building good relations based upon factors which will support the right cause like how you can help someone in reaching to the right resource as every time it is not important to have your work getting accomplished with every person you are confronting....
6. Put yourself into the person's shoes and imagine what would have been the scenario
7. Have empathy and the approach to understand people better
8. Always motivate the people with whatever wishes they have to accomplish rather than criticizing it
9. While having conversation with people, have it without any judgement.....but have faith that you are going to get connected with him or her diligently
10. Be a good listener for the people and just keep on expressing wherever necessary with a great gesture
11. Limit your wants and needs in front of people
12. Keep on inspiring them by giving a valuable gift or an appreciation letter or praise them in front of the audience with their true abilities

The above are few steps which one can take where it will be a great sign not to underestimate people and take undue advantage.

Right now, I want to be true and fair by ending here with the article because I am sure you are going to read it by respecting by efforts on writing and my skill as a writer! :-)

Be great, be kind!

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance and Master Spirit Life Coach
Certified Coach Alliance Group, Canada
Executive Leadership Coach
Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching
M.com and Musician(Singer, Poet and Composer)
www.soulomkar.co.in