Tuesday 11 October 2016

How to keep goodness intact while working in an organisation or in personal world???

Hello All,

Greetings!

It is difficult to be good as keeping one's energy positive is a task because of several behavioural patterns human being has! We differ ourselves in professional and personal environment deliberately many times for the sake of maintaining ethics of respective atmospheric essence but one should not forget that our mindfulness is our own asset which can get depreciated because of such a compromise we tend to do! Maintaining decorum of any professional place is not bad or even maintaining discipline in such an environment is not wrong and the same is the case which we follow in our personal world where mannerisms do not change but way of following them does make a change. However in all such modalities, one has a crucial task to do and i.e. keeping goodness intact in all such environmental occurrences!

In Spiritual doctrines...we read that how Godly personalities maintained their goodness throughout even though they faced many adversities due to some cunning personalities in front of them! However considering that we all will confront such adversities everywhere we go....what the challenges would be and how we can overcome them; is a thing to give a thought over, right? More than that assuming that adversities will always remain with us, how we can maintain our goodness in such circumstances; is a conviction to look at it!

Increase observation and compassion in vision- 

We all observe things but because of our subconscious mind which shows lot of colours ; every person's capacity of observation defers but here if we can focus on our observation meticulously, it will surely help us in taking steps in moments more calmly and at the same time, it will also increase compassionate approach of looking at every situation differently where positive attitude will get cultivated to a larger extent after practising the same diligently! Good Observation enhances our understanding capacity to identify the situation.

Practise Emotional Intelligence-

We all have emotions and it is an integral part of our mindfulness and we also possess intelligence but then even after having both the aspects, why we behave irrationally and in a falsifying manner! We may not have an immediate answer but then here we will need to break the normal way of looking at behavioural mirror of the human being because there is something called as emotional intelligence which can be developed only by human and that is why to inculcate goodness in us, this is the best practising tool we can have in both the areas i.e. professional and personal world.

Wear an image of a Joker in our life where one will get to know the inner feeling of every person-

This is the most important role we can start assuming in our life. There are examples in my life where people around me keep JOKER as their Idol in life because it keeps their good emotion alive and they believe in this fact a lot. The way Joker makes us laugh but at the back of his mind when we try to know real facts we get to know that he is over poured with true emotions and he has more compassionate approach to look at life because of inner adversities he always fights with! So if we will try to understand the role of a Joker in one's life...we will surely increase respectful attitude in every respect!

Always look down towards those category of people who struggle a lot in life and lead a more miserable life than us-

I am aware that this may not be a great way of assuming things in life but consider that every person is a human being irrespective of the situation in life and of course the status because this way every one of us will get a way to see the situation more wisely...let it be a professional life or personal one!
Here also assume that we do not get everything in life but we can procure one thing in life based upon our developing approach of training ourselves and i.e. nothing but goodness in ourselves which has no limitation survive and to compare with. And hence looking down towards such a community of people who get things in life by struggling a lot. Once we will get to know the authenticity of this situational condition of a human, we will not underestimate anyone in life and that will keep our goodness intact. Experiment it and imagine the same....gradually one can surely analyse the severity of it.

Have taste in some spiritual element according to our own belief-

Let us not believe in spirituality 100% but it is 100% sure that everyone has some taste in some element which is spiritual and it is his or her comfort zone which keeps on giving him/her courage to live life with confidence and that should be the ultimate core value to keep our belief system about humanity intact. Many times there may be incidences in our professional or even personal life where we may have behaved in a way which is not ethical so far as human values are concerned and it is not something to be blamed but considering that we all go wrong at some stage....believing in such similar spiritual values will add lot of strength in one's life and it will in turn help us in keeping goodness in the right manner.

All the above techniques can surely keep our goodness alive and proper.
Life has to unfold many surprises in everyone's area of potentials and hence if we do not want to miss those moments of making our life interesting every opportunity has to be made good by considering that this is the last chance to make something precious and this reminds me of Steve Job's statement on the basis of which he lived his life very successfully and i.e. "Do everything as if it is our last working day in our life!" and this statement always encourages me, will it encourage you to keep goodness intact?  Let us be well wishers of each other  because this way positive energy will get spread radically and it will surge up the core value of everyone's life to lead it in the most excellent manner!

All the best wishes to all!

Regards, Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Global member of CCA Canada,
Professional Musician
www.soulomkar.com

How to keep goodness intact while working in an organisation or in personal world???

Hello All,

Greetings!

It is difficult to be good as keeping one's energy positive is a task because of several behavioural patterns human being has! We differ ourselves in professional and personal environment deliberately many times for the sake of maintaining ethics of respective atmospheric essence but one should not forget that our mindfulness is our own asset which can get depreciated because of such a compromise we tend to do! Maintaining decorum of any professional place is not bad or even maintaining discipline in such an environment is not wrong and the same is the case which we follow in our personal world where mannerisms do not change but way of following them does make a change. However in all such modalities, one has a crucial task to do and i.e. keeping goodness intact in all such environmental occurrences!

In Spiritual doctrines...we read that how Godly personalities maintained their goodness throughout even though they faced many adversities due to some cunning personalities in front of them! However considering that we all will confront such adversities everywhere we go....what the challenges would be and how we can overcome them; is a thing to give a thought over, right? More than that assuming that adversities will always remain with us, how we can maintain our goodness in such circumstances; is a conviction to look at it!

Increase observation and compassion in vision- 

We all observe things but because of our subconscious mind which shows lot of colours ; every person's capacity of observation defers but here if we can focus on our observation meticulously, it will surely help us in taking steps in moments more calmly and at the same time, it will also increase compassionate approach of looking at every situation differently where positive attitude will get cultivated to a larger extent after practising the same diligently! Good Observation enhances our understanding capacity to identify the situation.

Practise Emotional Intelligence-

We all have emotions and it is an integral part of our mindfulness and we also possess intelligence but then even after having both the aspects, why we behave irrationally and in a falsifying manner! We may not have an immediate answer but then here we will need to break the normal way of looking at behavioural mirror of the human being because there is something called as emotional intelligence which can be developed only by human and that is why to inculcate goodness in us, this is the best practising tool we can have in both the areas i.e. professional and personal world.

Wear an image of a Joker in our life where one will get to know the inner feeling of every person-

This is the most important role we can start assuming in our life. There are examples in my life where people around me keep JOKER as their Idol in life because it keeps their good emotion alive and they believe in this fact a lot. The way Joker makes us laugh but at the back of his mind when we try to know real facts we get to know that he is over poured with true emotions and he has more compassionate approach to look at life because of inner adversities he always fights with! So if we will try to understand the role of a Joker in one's life...we will surely increase respectful attitude in every respect!

Always look down towards those category of people who struggle a lot in life and lead a more miserable life than us-

I am aware that this may not be a great way of assuming things in life but consider that every person is a human being irrespective of the situation in life and of course the status because this way every one of us will get a way to see the situation more wisely...let it be a professional life or personal one!
Here also assume that we do not get everything in life but we can procure one thing in life based upon our developing approach of training ourselves and i.e. nothing but goodness in ourselves which has no limitation survive and to compare with. And hence looking down towards such a community of people who get things in life by struggling a lot. Once we will get to know the authenticity of this situational condition of a human, we will not underestimate anyone in life and that will keep our goodness intact. Experiment it and imagine the same....gradually one can surely analyse the severity of it.

Have taste in some spiritual element according to our own belief-

Let us not believe in spirituality 100% but it is 100% sure that everyone has some taste in some element which is spiritual and it is his or her comfort zone which keeps on giving him/her courage to live life with confidence and that should be the ultimate core value to keep our belief system about humanity intact. Many times there may be incidences in our professional or even personal life where we may have behaved in a way which is not ethical so far as human values are concerned and it is not something to be blamed but considering that we all go wrong at some stage....believing in such similar spiritual values will add lot of strength in one's life and it will in turn help us in keeping goodness in the right manner.

All the above techniques can surely keep our goodness alive and proper.
Life has to unfold many surprises in everyone's area of potentials and hence if we do not want to miss those moments of making our life interesting every opportunity has to be made good by considering that this is the last chance to make something precious and this reminds me of Steve Job's statement on the basis of which he lived his life very successfully and i.e. "Do everything as if it is our last working day in our life!" and this statement always encourages me, will it encourage you to keep goodness intact?  Let us be well wishers of each other  because this way positive energy will get spread radically and it will surge up the core value of everyone's life to lead it in the most excellent manner!

All the best wishes to all!

Regards, Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Global member of CCA Canada,
Professional Musician
www.soulomkar.com

Saturday 3 September 2016

How to control your anger wherever you are? Five aspects of controlling it!

Hi All,

Greetings!

I was in one organisation few days back and I was waiting at the reception for the CEO's meeting to get over as I had an appointment with him that day for some official work. While I was sitting there at the reception...I happened to observe one incident where one vendor had come to collect the cheque for the service provided and he was told that cheque it not ready and he will require to visit the organisation again in the next week. The moment the vendor got to know that he is not getting the payment, he called up his office and informed accordingly. While talking over the phone, I could make out that the boss of him was furious and was scolding him like anything where it was not that person's fault but still patiently he was listening to him and then after keeping the phone down, he silently but with lot of stress mentioned at the reception that in the next week if it will not be ready then we may require to levy you an interest amount and my boss will send the mail to your accounts department immediately after observing the scenario and he went off.

The above was not a very serious incident but looking at the face of the vendor and the conversation he had with his boss, he seemed like a victim where unnecessarily he had to bear the scolding from his boss. He was angry but with a great control he could depict that at the reception even after experiencing the mistake of the organisation not handing over the payment. However that simple scenario made me think about it and accordingly my thinking tank got activated tremendously to extend the thought process in such a manner where how someone can really control the anger. Anger management in present conditions makes lot of sense because of high competitiveness and accordingly the pressure under which we all have been working in the professional world!

I could recollect those days when I was working in the organisation in finance department and how I used to deal with my anger. Yes...there were few loopholes which I wanted to work on but gradually I had seen improvement. Over the years, I have revealed that ANGER has five aspects by which it can be controlled. In the current trend of the industrial world, we can surely imagine what pressure these executive people like  CEOs, CFOs. CTOs and COOs must be managing and what they must be doing when tremendous work pressure invade them!!!

Controlling anger is like having control on your spending on unnecessary things....controlling your diet if it is getting excessive! And yes...it is very much possible! Our subconscious is invisible but is very powerful in storing things which our mind desires for and at appropriate time, it pops up to fulfil those desires but rapid conversion of audio-visual  facts and circumstances into a calm moment is something to take a challenge for! I started practising to control my anger by keeping myself in solitude for some time and draining out all those negative aspects which have been saturated in my subconscious by speaking to myself or at times, sharing the same with someone who can tolerate you with his/her patient listening skills! At the same time, I felt that even our vision can also be automatically get set like a machine after few rounds of practice where we can change the mode of our mindfulness whenever there is an opportunity cost of anger which may increase situation wise.

Five aspect to automate process of controlling anger-

Accuracy in sensing surroundings and be aware of the same-
Many times when we get angry we tend to forget about the surroundings and people around us and that is where if  we have accurate understanding of the same then things would definitely be fine and we can surely sense the atmospheric mood while dealing with people. In professional world predominantly this helps us a lot because everything depends upon our demeanour in the organisation and it affects or effects our appraisal (KRAs). Here the anger management is crucial to control with.

Nourishment of our weak areas of behaviour and try to change the pattern-
If we love ourselves but at the same time if we know our weak areas while finding ourselves and our own path, then things would surely suffice the way they are expected. Each coin has two sides and many times we ignore our negatives simply by saying that every person has negatives! However this is where one has to work a bit more because of the complexity of mind God has given to everyone. Sometimes we may require to do some superficial changes in our personality because of the professional commitments we give to the organisations we are working in. Here continuously working on our weak areas helps us to grow properly at work places. Here at personal level we have to work rigorously by opting for some cosmic/spiritual medium of anger management techniques where results can be better although not up to the mark.

Glorify our potentials to the extent possible-
If we know who we are and for what purpose we are living, then this basic philosophical question many times solves the issue. If we know our abilities and capacity areas where we can give our best always....anger management can easily remain at a minimal level. Also finding out potentials of your own; is not sufficient but working on them in such a manner where you will glorify the same to the extent possible where you will not have frustration at all at every step of life even though tensions will pester you. Here one has to take care that at any point of time, do not get pampered by the people around because that causes danger for sure as far as your behavioural occurrences are concerned.

Eliminating unnecessary elements of our personality-
When we work closely with people in organisations, our minute things can be observed and then criticising them becomes vital where one has a responsibility of eliminating those unnecessary elements of personality. For e.g. many times we work in a team and as a usual habit sometimes, our weaknesses of the personality get aggravated and it can cause tremendous loss to our own self and the people around. Some person may have a usual habit of playing with some instruments by taking them in hands or some people may have a habit of slouching/fidgeting which can put  a bad impression. By having considered such habits then our small weaknesses can be magnified in such a way where our anger may get increased in such cases and that is why we must try to eliminate such unnecessary elements of our personality.

Rationalising approach of detachment-
To avoid any misunderstanding or furious situations we must have a positive/rational approach at every point of time. Here also law of detachment makes lot of sense. And we can do this. While working in organisations, we should keep our habits in such a manner where project wise our vision will get detached at the right time due to which our position will remain intact and we will get fair justice to our contribution for the project and at the same time,getting detached from the same will take us ahead to think about next innovation! Also giving up few things...by thinking about positives of forthcoming situations helps us to configure our approach quite well. Also it improves the efficiency of the team and the whole organisation thereto. At personal level, to become stress free law of detachment with rational approach will help us a lot because at personal level we become insecure at times and infrequent solutions on this might cause a big loss. Hence rational approach in every moment can keep us motivated where it in turn helps us to get attached to law of detachment and accordingly keep our anger in control.

So friends, this is the most killing enemy of one's life and we want to become victims of this or we want to set us free by not attaching ourselves to ANGER; can be a thoughtful process to follow for now. Thank you and Salute to all existences on this earth without having anger, envy, rudeness, ruthlessness, revengeful feeling etc.

Best Regards, Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Affiliate member of CCA, Canada
Professional Musician
www.soulomkar.com

Sunday 14 August 2016

Communication and its effectiveness irrespective of any language where five aspects play an integral role!!!!

Hello All,

Communication, this process was born when we were born on this earth or before we were born…the process was in existence where the nature was very inquisitive in communicating with different beings and we as human beings….was the best ever communication channel because of which this process got glorified a lot by many as the revolution kept on happening.
Right now, by writing an article on this I am also in a way adopting some communication method to reach to you all and I am sure that once it will reach to you in one of the finest ways…then my journey of writing this article will flourish more and more.
In this article I thought it prudent to put such aspects in front of you which actually make the process very healthy and quite natural more than anything else. I always imagine that many spiritualists or Godly people like Jesus Christ, Lord Shrikrishna and such other personalities were used to have a very effective communication with all due to which they could win over millions of people and they are still remembered.
There used to have no difference between personal and professional communication to that extent or if it is there then particularly it has not been mentioned anywhere with peculiar enunciation. However our mindful brain can definitely extend the imagination to the highest possible extent to know how the communication could have been and how it should be now!
Charlie Chaplin used to communicate with people through his expressions, body language and overall actions because of which he used to make us laugh and that was the most crucial act of him ever where it can be one of the model examples of effective communication. Similarly platform may change but effectiveness always depends upon the utilization of one’s personal potential strengths with respect to the situation & its response.
After thinking a lot and working with many people till date, I could analyze that the important five aspects which I am enumerating here can be useful in our professional area wherever we are working irrespective of the language.

FIVE ASPECTS OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

1.      Honesty and Integrity paves the way for- There is always a hue and cry in organizations with respect to the honesty of the person or even what we call it as Integrity. Because of this, I have seen that the communication, too has the impact with a greater intensity. It is said that your mind & its impression cannot be hidden because it reflects what you are doing and who you are as a person and that is exactly proportional to your way of communication in the society or organizations wherever you work. Honesty has to be naturally existing within the person and if it is not there then it may lead us to hamper the process of communication. Many barriers remain as it is in our mindful personality and it shows when we communicate. Many times, just due to sheer hiding of a fact disturbs our communication process and then everything starts going wrong where the stage comes and we see ourselves getting stuck with some problematic situation. Instead clear and honest way of communication may create problems sometimes but then finding solutions on the same becomes more easier in such scenarios because our validity with respect to our integrity increases our face value.

2.      Expressional Power especially our smile- Of late, I have observed that the more powerful our expressions are, more effective the conversation will be because of our expressive presence. Many times, people understand what somebody wants to say just by mere but fabulous expressions. If you are honest then your expressions do not hide what you want to say….and it is quite natural phenomena but now a days we are able to see how fabricated expressions we have on the face while interacting with someone!!!! Our attitude changes our expressions and that power becomes pale act all of a sudden due to some egoistic approach getting portrayed. Hence 0.01% of expressional change can be observed if we are perfectly on the track with respect to the communication! Smile also creates positive vibes in the atmosphere and hence fabricated smile can be made out or even true smiles can be judged and then accordingly people many times choose communication channels to adopt for!  You can imagine that you are in the office and just have entered the ambience where one of your colleagues come in front of you who is jealous of your position and then he deliberately gives you a smile which does not have that expected zeal and then you proclaim, “Early in the morning…I had to confront someone who hates me and his/her smile has passed on some bad energy…!” It triggers unnecessary power towards you and then you know what happens….! J Hence Expressional power makes a difference!

3.      Convincing approach towards life- When we hover around the professional world, it does not restrict us to that because we all carry unwarranted burden of our personal life with us and then it affects our communication in professional atmosphere. We all are not the exception to this, right? Due to this sheer fact, one should start realizing that if we are convinced with why we are living on this earth then….everything will change positively! Many times I say that we must realize our own value of life in the first place because then there will be some spice or essence to live the life diligently! Communication is an act where our mindful brain always responds or reacts but while doing that our other thoughts in subconscious make the process smooth or hard as per the state of our mindful brain. So be convinced with your own life first and then get into your professional world because the frame of mind which you will carry that time will have lot of hold on every action of yours and so is the case in communication!

4.      Passionate Conversational  Habit- This is the most effective way to adopt but at the same time the most crucial ever because passion is something which has to be found out from within….and for the person it takes many times the whole of his/her life to reveal that passionate quality! I may be exaggerating but it is a fact that passion solves many problems of our personality and it is a precious tool for communication. Communication is a process where there has to be an authenticity from the origin till the destination! To get habituated with passionate conversation, we will require to work on ourselves a lot because the same thing is going to decide our way of communication thereafter!  It is true that we all are not active communicators but many times passiveness is liked by many. However think of the same scenario and analyze if you have benefited out of this passive communication….!!! You may have benefited because being a listener changes the perspective at times but when we talk about communication as a process…it takes a toll to arrive at a positive conclusion of this process. Many great legendary speakers have this passionate conversational habit which has taken a birth from their original quality of doing something passionate in life and this has to be learnt from these people for sure.

Keeping human aspect alive- I always remember respected  Ratan Tata for his human aspect which he always kept alive and hence today also when I think of Tata group…I think of only Ratan Tata and likewise there are many people for whom he is an inspiration in the industrial world. The reason is simple and it is; he was a great human being although he owns such a large empire like a monarch! I have seen that wherever there is a lack of human aspect, things become pernicious and the days comes where appeasement becomes impossible to have during that situation. Why is it so? Because of lagging behind with human element where at every stage of your communication with someone, it really helps us a lot! So keeping human aspect alive; is like carrying natural legacy ahead with a rational approach in life. This principle is very applicable in one’s professional life as well. I have observed the management philosopher Marshall Goldsmith when he speaks…he has a human aspect and I have also experienced his way of taking notes where I had received one email from him acknowledging my thoughts and song which I had sent it across. I was not really expecting that he will write back to me but when I received his email, I was overwhelmed with his kind hearted approach. Hence to keep communication healthy this last but very important aspect should not be forgotten and i.e. human aspect liveliness…! It changes the periphery of one’s communication process and angle everywhere.

So now we all should find ourselves perfect in our positions to follow these aspects. I still learn a lot by adhering to all the above aspects and it gives fantastic result…! I am the one who has lot of trust in this because right now I am communicating with all of you with only one feeling in mind and i.e. I want to be a good communicator in days to come and because of you all, I can do that! Hats off to you all! Enjoy your daily communication! Write to me as well at amit@soulomkar.com

Thank you! 

Amit Deokule

Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Global Member of CCA, Canada
www.soulomkar.com
www.your24hcoach.com
Professional Musician
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Thursday 7 July 2016

Practising Employability skills and five aspects to keep the same intact

Hi Friends,

Greetings!

Market demands keep on changing from time to time and it reflects on the life of every person who is capable of being employed. Even an entrepreneur needs skills which are employable because ultimately we all work for growth and that is the ultimate perspective.

Have you ever faced a scenario where because of lack of employability skills you get failed at the time of interview?
Have you ever faced some kind of a sudden set back in your life even after having lot of talent and technical skills?
Have you ever got stuck with your own potentials where how to use your skills in the organisation will be a problem for you?

All the above questions depict that one needs to focus on his or her employability skills more consistently!

We all can have choices in choosing the career but we can not have optional tools for enhancing our employability skills.

Practising these skills ; is like a habit and it should become our habit. Employability skills is a deployment of person for some position in the organisation where he or she will exhibit all required skills apart from his/her technical knowledge which will help him or her in sustaining in the organisation with excellent record.

Enhancing employability skill is like overhauling the approach from time to time where conflicts, confusion, critical conditions will be avoided while dealing with people. Keeping Employability skills intact helps organisation to keep the growth trajectory always on a progressive mode. So it is said that while going for an interview, the person should emphasise on what organisation will derive after placing him or her and how it will be benefited!!! Because this confidence extension will help people in employing them in the first place!

Five aspects keeping the skills intact-

1. To keep abreast of the market trend to employ people
2. To upgrade communication and leadership skills from time to time
3. To restore the capacity to change positively while working in the organisation
4. To be a great team member in a team building process
5. To keep your emotional intelligence on a high mode always

1. To keep abreast of the market trend to employ people - Continuous reading of various business magazines or even supplement of newspapers where industry occurrences and related news get published ; should be taken a note of. Talking to various people, attending seminars giving lot of knowledge about the industrial trends should be done after specific time intervals. This way or even reading out/surfing through various networking channels keep giving you updated knowledge about the market and this should be done at regular interval by people who want phenomenal growth in their career.

2. To upgrade communication and leadership skills from time to time- This is the most crucial area which is ignored many times by employees of the organisation. For the said reason, participating in various activities, taking initiative always make people a good communicator imbibing good leadership qualities. The leader is a title and the leadership is a responsibility...and this should not be forgotten by the people who want to make themselves employable.

3. To restore the capacity to change positively while working in the organisation- Change is the most crucial area to get adapted to and positive change is more challenging to make into practice. The famous management philosopher Peter Drucker has stated somewhere that change has to be there but somebody who will think to go beyond change will create something unique in this world. Hence change is indispensable and to make it a habit, it requires courage. Employability skills can be kept intact by adhering to the change most graciously!

4. To be a great team member in a tea building process- It is said that not a single team is perfect with 100% accuracy but if someone can learn to be a great team member while building processes for a team, it will give judicious results to the person who is working  as a team member. Many times, while working in a team conflicts get created to a larger level in a team and that makes person less employable in the industrial scenario because one can not avoid working in a team. To become  a good team member, one needs to have tenacity to drive himself/herself properly in the organisation and if it works then growth path will be much easier.

5. To keep your emotional intelligence (E.I.) on a high mode always- Now a days dealing with people has become very tough because of the stressful condition one hovers around. Because of the said reason, one will require to work on his/her emotional value a lot. Being an emotional person and being emotionally intelligent makes a lot difference. Hence working on E.I. benefits lot of people because people are greater assets or they are like fixed but at the same time movable assets of the organisation where if the zeal will be kept alive among people to work consistently on a high mode, then things will become easier to handle with in organisations. Predominantly if we will focus on increasing empathy, then we will be able to keep people's temperament balanced and this way we will be able to justify ourselves in conditional environment.


The above are very essential point to keep our employability skills intact. Because till the time perpetual succession is going to be there in organisations, people as an employable resource will never die because we as humans have some "X" factor in our personality for sure but keeping that factor alive in organisations takes a toll and to avoid that toll one will always need to practice skills which are employable skills and keeping them intact by following the above five aspects will surely help people in upgrading themselves as a thorough professional!

Be Employable be a professional!

Warm Regards,
Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
www.soulomkar.com
www,your24hcoach.com
Professional Musician

Saturday 18 June 2016

Five ways to keep human values intact

Hi Friends,

Greetings!

Human Values are becoming the centre of focus in the current world of affairs and it is because of stressful conditions people are hovering around. Actually there is nothing to talk about human values because we are far superior than animals but there is everything to talk about it because of the hype which has been observed in the society now a days because of many factors including professionally competitive stress everyone has!

Value can be measured by putting some equivalent tool for the same but human...this word has infinite parameters where fixing it in a rigid structure is more than crucial but then looking at its severity one will need to maintain certain values with grace in this comparative world.

According to me Human Value and its extension is as follows-

HUMAN- Harmonised Uniqueness Managing Aspiring Nomenclatures

VALUE- Valour Authenticity Lucrative Ubiquitous Enduring/Evolving

Every letter in Value and its meaning as per my conviction is-

Valour - Emotional intelligence. One needs that brave approach to use E.Q. at every step.
Authenticity- One's identity is very important in this competitive world.
Lucrative- Gaining Social Momentum
Ubiquitous- Creating one's existence in such a way where it will be a known entity
Enduring/Evolving- Continuously impacting by virtues/ establishing good impressions and memories to cherish where brand as an entity will be recognised.

To keep up with the above aspects wherever we go we can have following five tools to keep human values intact-

1. Gratitude Expression- It is important to express gratitude wherever we go because you never know how the relations will turn out to be professionally or personally in life! Whomsoever we will meet in life in any part of the globe, it is necessary to be respectful because people observe people and this process will never end up.

2. Self motivation and motivating others- It is vital to have self motivation because without that one can not remain energetic in life and his or her vision will not get shaped up the way it is expected. Secondly motivating others will surely give satisfaction to the people because they will be remembered due to the quality of motivating somebody for their potentials or qualities or anything which is called as good in somebody! It is imperative to have this activity constantly getting progressive in life for the welfare of the society and do not forget we are humans and a part of the same society irrespective of in which part of the world we roam around.

3. Extend help whenever there is an opportunity where your exact potentials will be utilised- We all have some unique qualities and the man is known by those qualities only. Albert Einstein was not a good looking person but his heart and brain was so beautiful that his quotes are still cherished by everyone. It is said that every moment is an opportunity and if we grab some of the opportunities to help people by some or other way by utilising our potential qualities...universal energy will surely trigger your enthusiasm to become a noble personality in the world.  In professional or personal life of everyone, there is a certain opportunity of similar kind but we tend to ignore many times as naturally everyone is selfish but to keep the human value intact this act will change the periphery of the humanity as a concept.

4. Empathy- This aspect is indirectly related to human values but in professional world when everyone is stressed, apparently empathetic nature is going to benefit several groups and the same way personal life will also have its sure positive reflections. This in turn will keep humanity alive because people will realise that identifying someone's mindfulness at particular time was as important as identifying the indication of Tsunami or storm or flood or such calamities which ruin the nature. The same is the case with human being. Empathy is playing a greater role and it will be...in coming days...because it has become a need for the person who goes through a critical stage of life. Jesus Christ or even Lord Shrikrishna had this empathetic elegance in their personality and due to that they were Godly images and idols of many!

5. Be a part of somebody's happy feeling and share happiness from within to celebrate- Ultimately why we live and why we survive...are the two contradictory but at the same time equally essential questions of life and the answer is to attain the state of happiness/ecstasy which is not in any material thing. And hence sharing somebody's happiness increases the gravity of the same by millions and it should be at every stage of life when we meet people from variety of religions. Eventually one will surely realise that everyone survives for happiness and human value is the only religion which will be secured through happiness...and the greatness of this concept. One should celebrate every moment and celebrating happiness is like forgetting all negative points and only focusing on qualities of some person due to which he or she becomes the ideal for his or her own life. All spiritual doctrines ultimately speak about happiness where nothing should bother us and not even this externally eclipsed world full of illusions.


HUMAN VALUES now a days need lot of overhauling and repairing because of over expectations, unnecessary desires, egoism, attitudinal problems and I think the above are the ways and means to escape from all sheer barriers of one's complex mind where even he or she will get rid of all those perplexed situations of life which make life miserable. CELEBRATE HUMANITY.....GIVE VALUE TO IT BY ABOVE ASPECTS MENTIONED AND SALUTE TO HUMAN BECAUSE VALUE HAD BEEN GIVEN TO THE PERSON AFTER HE WAS TERMED AS HUMAN and HE OR SHE WAS BORN ON THIS EARTH!

Blessed Self!

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
www.soulomkar.com
Global member of CCA, Canada.

Thursday 16 June 2016

Human Values, a far fetched phenomena?

Hi All,

Greetings!

For last five and half years, I have been working as a life coach and it is been a wonderful journey till now. I met variety of people and even they have enriched me so far as it is a continuous learning.

After meeting variety of people till date, I am of the opinion that Human value is still a far fetched phenomena! People will surely point out fingers at me but when somebody talks about human value one has to be equal, transparent and open to respond!

If we talk about the human from its origin then lot of things come in the picture where various religions, castes, creeds and communities are there in a diverse country like India. But when we talk about human value...all these concepts vanish and only one religion remains and i.e. Human as universal! 

Now the above is the ideal way of talking about human and its value but looking at the present scenario and the approach of people...human value and its configuration will change totally!

After practising human values for so many years and births...people carry fabricated smile, show attitude due to their intelligence, keep ego.....why???

There are lot of institutions for transforming people but what does transformation mean  and when does it occur? People get trained and the impact remains for a while and after which the normal behaviour gets depicted with many ifs and buts, what is the use then? 

When we attach the word Universal to something...it changes the perspective because the whole human community comes within the periphery of the universal and it is a truth...but are we accommodating every being??? remains in the kitty. People portray themselves to be humans and measure value of others but not of themselves...but still can work on human values! No wonder....many Indians say that we live in a very simple community which accepts both the sides of the story where even negatives are allowed in that community! However if values are universal then uniqueness and versatility in human value has to be expected and exactly we lack in that .

Fortunately the person in front can recognise the authenticity of one's humanness and hence working on such a difficult terminology in reality and which it is like somebody who does not know about value and he or she is taking benefit of doubt for this concept; is a thinkable issue. IF we talk about anything universal then it has to be perfect and it has to be authentic truth. Human is a truth....human has capability to be a perfectionist but values differ and truth keeps on fluctuating from time to time...as truth as a concept is the one IMPERVIOUS but truth as concept of digestion is difficult to pursue and therefore...there are conflicts....differences....scenarios like not tuning with each other ......where while talking about universal people still drop many people out of this universality! How can it be?

The real meaning according to me for human value is-

HUMAN- Harmonised Uniqueness Managing Aspiring Nomenclatures
VALUE- Valour Authenticity Lucrative Ubiquitous Enduring/Evolving

Extensions of Words in Value-

Valour- Emotional Intelligence
Authenticity- Identity with integrity
Lucrative- Gaining Social Momentum with pride
Ubiquitous- Natural Truth
Enduring/Evolving- Continuously impactful /leaving good memories OR Proving to be a great entity

The above meaningful extension may be difficult to perceive but human value as a concept is crucial to execute and hence we need to understand the above meaning as well.

In Vedas it is said that all beings on this earth are our friends but ironically have we perceived this concept fully if we want to spread a word of universal human values? If we do not like someone’s approach we dislike him or her by some way or other and it happens from the people who are working on human values, then what should we call them as???

Swami Vivekananda preached character building techniques as means of education and there itself value education was embedded in the minds of people quite well but as the time passed by and revolution started happening, human as a being started evolving as something on the basis of externally eclipsed things more than anything else and it is said practically that audio-visuals put severe impact on somebody and that deteriorates the conditions of mindfulness many times. In the community of animals no one will ask each other…where are our values on the basis of which we live our life but in the community of humans…something called as human value got established just by mere reflections of variety of people and their ‘n’ number of opinions on severally infinite perspectives. Otherwise human value as a concept should not arise but because of two sides of the coin this concept got evolved. In this kali yuga everyone is hovering around the competitive world and this competitiveness has affected human minds where not a single one is the exception. People want to gain popularity by working on some ethical concepts and want to make the terminologies like human value famous for the sake of making it so! This is a living fact and one will not accept but examples of Godly images like Saint Dnyaneshwar/Tukaram, Jesus Christ, Lord Shrikrishna are rare to find because of the comparison which is going on among people as to who will become a great human being???? Hence it will be crucial game in coming days to prove the humanity as a concept. Humanity is as natural as the nature and hence there is nothing to prove but all will require to activate their hidden humanly expressions which are already there within. Many people talk about compassion, love…etc. with full study but now only study is not sufficient and its implementation is more than precious because the one who studies these concept can take a revenge of somebody now a days or show lot of attitude by mere presentations of compassion and love!

Hence at the outset winning over human as a value is not that easy and it might take births because even those who are working on human values…God is looking at you…do not forget that and simply opting for this way will not pave the way for maximisation of good deeds! Remember, Value was not born before human but when human was born…there is something called as value took the place to outshine the human and hence always value will be supportive to the word human but this support will have to be extremely sacred and holistic! So to remove the feeling of “A Far Fetched” from the human value…one will require to go beyond his or her capacity to prove that Human value is memorable and it is cherishing with so much of immortality which does not come just by saying that we work on human values but by becoming a living model example of the current time!

Salute to all humans and all the best wishes for humans who will create good values for this whole community of humans!!!!

Regards, Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach

Global member of CCA, Canada 

Wednesday 15 June 2016

Music is an universal healing strategy which changes human positively!

Hello All,

Greetings!

Hope you are doing fine! 

Twenty years back when I was unaware of the fact that in future what I shall be getting through music would be phenomenal and absolutely something called as "incredibly awakening", today I am really happy to be a musician and feel like going back to those days when I was in a premature stage of "Being Musician"! Because that journey had enlightened all those moments when I was experiencing many situations musically!

We all know one famous poem "Twinkle Twinkle Little Stars, How I wonder what you are! Up above the world so high, like a diamond in the sky !" 

Today I realise strongly that how important such poems were because music enriches everyone on this earth irrespective of being a qualitative musician every time!

If we go by the word "MUSIC" then I have revealed the same as 

Moments of miracle
Ubiquitous uniqueness
Serving the whole humanity
Igniting all inactive minds
Cherishing every life moment by way of character building!!!!

Many legendary artists/dignitaries say that Music is such an activity which can't be used for others in the first place but it is experienced for our own self because it awakens someone's mindfulness to such a level where passionate change in one's personality is possible with full positive approach.

Technology will have an expiry date even in today's innovative world but Music will always emerge as the best tool to revive and rejuvenate deteriorated conditions! 

Through my experiences in music as a live stage performer or even recording artist being a singer, composer and poet, I have seen drastic changes in people when people say that by listening to particular creation, we got motivated a lot and could change our perspective.  

Music acts like a transformer in someone's life if we talk about real transformation! Because in my formative years, I used to look at music as the best remedy for passing the time and make fun but gradually as the days passed by; music started getting into the roots and nerves of my body, heart, soul and mind! It is said that in the outside world, many times one's visuals act as a player of emotional gambling where all sides of one's natural behaviour get depicted which includes negative aspect as well. But Music has strength to catch only positive moments more appropriately where even people with bad habits become positive thinkers where people around them can analyse that the situation has made them so and in reality they are not like that. 

In our spiritual doctrines as well there are many references where it is found that music is truly a cosmic phenomena where everything is unconditional! I have also observed during my journey where many times people get close to me just because of music but not because of my approach towards life, choices in career, habits etc. where transiently one can experience that all energy centers get triggered during those moments when music is the core focus and we only talk about music and then allied discussions go in  the flow very smoothly where kind and gentle atmosphere gets created.

The following is the experience which I have had many times while listening to or working on music in my life and following statement is quite evident to what I have experienced-  Music is the only activity which can create any damn environment whenever you are alone and you want to be with yourself. It is like every relation with yourself at no cost! Imagination plays a role to an extent where your visuals and inner voice melodiously and meditatively blend together when you become musical! 

Categorically, musical frame of mind is equivalent to enhancing the human value in our life. When a child takes birth on this earth, it is said that his/her first moment of crying resonates the frequencies of OMKAR (A U M)  which is the universal truth and OM is having prime importance in the field of music because it is the starting point in music or of the sound precisely. If it is so then it is not wrong to claim that every mindful person has one musical string which should get activated in life and once it is activated then only flower will blossom irrespective of its withering state which is as natural as the nature. 

I made it a practice during my learning journey and still practice to feel in every part of the body when I sing , compose or write or even listen to different musical creations and it works. I always say that even if somebody will be lost in the jungle and there will not be any remedy to get escaped for a while, music will resolve the fear in mind for the time being to pass the time till the moment of escape. :-) It may be an exaggerated response to quote my experience but music releases blockages in our perception for sure. It brings together all natural smiling faces or make fabricated smiles; a naturally progressive smiles. It may be a gradual process but one day will come when music from within will surely have its own symphony getting played at every step of human being because value is not the measurement when we talk about human value but it is the progressive amalgamation of positive aspects getting consolidated together and adding music as an energy into it makes the concept very universal where human being's natural versatility will get maintained in a unique manner.

Ultimately there is a lot to write about music being an artist and a life coach since Music has enriched me and has been continuing to teach me many hidden aspects of life where I am sure that it only cultivates all good aspects and one has only one responsibility in this case and it is just to maintain the crescendo of being mindfully musical as even being a listener also paves the way for bountiful growth in life. 

A musical salute to all! Right now while wrapping up, I am listening to the strings of piano, violin and acoustic guitar together which has actually generated all positivity to write about music as an universal healing and it is so...just be with it!!! I am connected with you all!!! Thank you!

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Global Member of CCA, Canada


Wednesday 27 April 2016

SELF MOTIVATION- AN EASY TOOL TO USE AND MOST ESSENTIAL TO SURVIVE IN TODAY’S WORLD!

SELF MOTIVATION- AN EASY TOOL TO USE AND MOST ESSENTIAL TO SURVIVE IN TODAY’S WORLD!

WHY SELF MOTIVATION IS VITAL???
      
Due to fierce competition and large amount of comparison because of immense talent pool which is accessible in the global world, it is highly imperative to have our SELF MOTIVATION intact now a days to survive!!!!
Without having any support, how we can derive self motivation; is a matter of concern. Because many times when I deliver my coaching sessions, people ask me, “Sir, how should we derive self motivation as it is harder process to perceive?” But my answer is always, “Yes my friends it is very easy to do that!”

If  we know our priorities of life with respect to our dreams/aims we have set; then possibilities of one getting motivated on  his/her own;  will be greater. Secondly if we are determined irrespective of any hindrances that we may confront, we will remain focused which in turn will support our motivational energy which should not get lost at any point of time. In the word Motivation we can find out one or two important words which have direct inclination as to how motivation can be self driven!!! First is Motive and second is Move according to me where continuous positive movement towards our motive will have automated self motivation!
We have tremendous influential elements  in the outside world which de-motivates us very often or even people around us many times discourages us reacting in such a fashion where our efficiency will get decreased. But then keeping in mind that we humans have an ability to control and decontrol our vision the way we want because of strong brainful and mindful abilities, self motivation can be easy to achieve. Motivation plays a part of water in growing the seed of any plant! Motivation is in our conviction i.e. in our approach. It means everyone has different taste and vision in appreciating something and similarly imagining that every situation in our life is a design and we are trying to make it superior by our own conviction because in this imagination our motivation is hidden and then any exterior incident will not bother us and will not override our abilities.

TOOLS WHICH ARE RESOURCEFUL FOR SELF MOTIVATION-

1.       PAINT YOUR PICTURE OF EVERY MOMENT POSITIVELY- Many times…whenever any situation crops up, we get scared and without giving a thought we react and also get depressed. Instead, if we will paint a picture of that particular situation by imagining that we are the part of the situation and handling the same diligently without any fear, it will be courageous.  At the same time, one should have a painted picture of every short term goal he or she has set for himself/herself because it helps a lot to remain energetic irrespective of problems.  When I thought of becoming a life coach, I painted a picture of what I shall be five years down the line and how people would think of me everyday being a life coach or even am I getting something really extraordinary in life due to which my motivation will remain forever? These questions helped me a lot because I painted a unique picture and have been painting almost every day since the day I started working as a life coach.

2.       USE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS CONSTANTLY ON EVERY DAY – Using affirmations like, “ I am healthy, I am happy!” and I started using this affirmation at the time of doing exercise in the morning and it started making my day more and more beautiful just because of this simple positive affirmation in life! Start jumping little bit…then start clapping and then start uttering these words and see the difference it will have in your life! The way we get habituated to something by practicing various things as per our own likes or even the way we have our breakfast every day or even sleep every day or even the bath, why can’t we get habituated with few positive affirmations like stated above? Yes, we can for sure!!!!! Before going to the bed in the night or  before getting off from the bed on every sunny morning, if we will start chanting few affirmations as if it is our prayer…it will surely help you in maintaining your motivation intact. Self motivation works like as if the machine needs overhauling after certain period…the man will need to be motivated at every step and hence overhauling will have to be done every day instead of making it a practice after every interval. Isn’t it interesting??? I also started chanting “AUM” every day and it worked fabulously for keeping my enthusiasm intact.

3.       LISTEN TO SOME HEALING MUSIC OR GET ASSOCIATED WITH ALMOST EVERY FORM OF MUSIC- I am a professional musician and after having a journey of almost 20 years, when I kept of listening to good music…I realized one day that barring all obstructions in life, I can surely keep my motivation blossoming and the healing gimmick was nothing but listening to pure music which you love from the bottom of your heart. For e.g. When I am depressed, I listen to the tune of piano or group violin or strings  etc. and it activates my emotional intelligence in such a manner that I reveal some precious thing about myself and it works as a self motivation. Likewise, if people will listen to the healing music which they appreciate as per their taste, it will surely inspire them.  So be a good listener of GENUINE MUSIC!!!!

4.       DO SOME BENEVOLENT ACTIVITY AS A PART OF YOUR NORMAL SCHEDULE- Social aspect is really essential in the current world of affairs and CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) is a buzz word now a days in the industrial world but then think as if you on your won has some terrific benevolence on the basis of which you plan to have some social activity as a part of your normal schedule. Try and find out such social organizations where you can be a part of the same easily without having any monetary investment and help the people selflessly where it is a self motivation within itself. Over a period of time, you will realize that you have lot of social homes with whom you have got associated and you feel really homely there because of pure sharing & giving  approach!

5.       BE CREATIVE IN YOUR OWN AREA OF POTENTIAL- The worst part which I have observed in people through my journey of a life coaching is; when people can not tap their true potentials and remain de-motivated & stressful thereto!  In such a situation I really feel like helping them in revealing their own circle of abilities which has a greater radius and diameter…! And when I see that zeal on their faces, I can make out that because of some unconditional desire to help people in making them find their own potentials, the world around me has changed totally where only glorious feeling of achieving something persists in your mind and moreover if you will see people becoming very creative in their own potential field then sky is the limit. Writing a letter to your own many times is a creative way of utilizing time and likewise there will be such numerous ways to adopt where your self motivation will remain intact! Isn’t it exciting? Yes very much…! Because I tried one exercise one day…! One day there was little more time for me to go inside the cabin of one senior person for the meeting and then his secretary asked me to wait in the reception. I waited over there and then all of a sudden thought came in mind…that what kind of thinking people carry when they come and go like this in various organizations….and it goes in multiples…how such scenario affects or effects. Just by sitting over there,  I wrote a poem on those people who come and go like me in various organizations…and to my surprise it gave me a great motivation to lead life enormously in an emphatic way!!!

So  friends, above five ways can surely keep you motivated because I could think of one line of famous management philosopher Robin Sharma, who  says “BE A ROCKSTAR LIKE A POET” Because poet has his own world of creative aspects and he feels out of this world when he writes a poem and it is an expression of ROCKSTAR, right? Similarly you can have your own ROCKSTAR feeling in your life to keep your motivation rejoicing!!!

THANK YOU
AMIT DEOKULE
LIFE BALANCE COACH

MASTER SPIRIT LIFE COACH

Monday 4 April 2016

HRs are selfishers or givers?

Hello All,

Greetings!

HR is the most crucial department I have ever seen in any organization because human being as an asset has full control getting extended from HR where it gives real strength to the people to work more efficiently because the emotional intelligence gets depicted by HR people first due to which they get tremendous courage.

There are different streams of degrees available in HR stream where MBA with HR, PGDBM with HR, MPM, Management degree from foreign etc... are available where even people from IIM can be seen working on a higher post in HR.

HR by the terminology & concept is very effective but how far HR by the concept of humanly element is getting implemented??? The question seems to be arrogant but it makes sense because nurturing of HRs may not be getting done with a point of view where humanly aspect gets developed while someone is getting educated in that stream! With due respect to all HRs, my observation has a different kind of expression and i.e. HRs are selfishers rather than givers! I have a great respect for this department and if I would not have been in finance department when I was working in service sector, I would have gone for HR. I used to see that many colleagues of mine used to say that trainings on soft skills do not suffice and it is a wastage of time....and then I used to question myself that if such a scenario is there...how long the compassionate attitude will remain alive among people if they do not want soft skill enhancement in their personality as a predominant factor of every place wherever they will work???

When I started working as a Life Balance Coach, I found that I am happened meet many HR people who just want to gather information from me but they were least interested in giving something....and giver's gain policy works excellently in business which is being said by the popular author and inventor of networking, Dr. Ivan Misner...! Then giver's gain can not be existing in organizations where somebody works as an employee??? We encourage all employees to work like entrepreneurs and then HRs as an employees are at times behave like rulers where giving attitude in the form of motivation is also lost at their end!

We can admit that HR people have targets and so is the case with every human being on this earth but then why that selfish approach is being seen in them at times....! Everybody is working to earn but then people being  in HR have some x factor to utilize for the benefit of the employees??? OR it is the responsibility of every being...because then why HR department should exist; will be a concern on the platter!

When I was working as an employee...one reputed company's HR department had mis-leaded me in terms of working zone and initially because they assured me to allocate comfortable time zone,,,I said yes but then after joining scenario came as a shocking surprise where I was transferred to adverse time zone where I was not keen! This is one example I am giving but then we are able to observe lot of hue and cry in many organizations with respect to HR department as a whole. I see that when recruitment process is being delegated to some different referencing companies, people do a referencing call quite casually and the information which is expected to be extracted can not get fetched in the right manner and then....we know how chaotic the recruitment process becomes!!!!

Every human is selfish in the first place but then in the corporate world while defining multitasking processes for various departments, can we have more dynamic policies for HR where balancing selfishness and giving approach will be maintained?

Till now in my journey as a  life coach or even as a finance manager, I have rarely seen HR people showing appropriate concerns for the people because for them target driven strategy is inevitable but humanly aspect with a giving attitude can not be forgotten by these people; should be imbibed in their minds! Theory of relativity will be surely extended by opinionating here but will that remove the dust which is there over the eyes of HRs???? HRs are not objects but an objective to glorify humanly aspect because without human nothing can happen and in the first place they are humans irrespective of HR degrees!!!!
These are my experiences in real time...rest is a respectful journey! Opinions are welcome!


Blessed Self!

Mull over! Regards,

Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Member Of CCA, Canada
Professional Musician 

Friday 26 February 2016

Kali Yuga, a mystified Empowerment???

Hi All,

The movie of Shahrukh Khan which is in the offing...by name "FAN" has already been brewing with lot of exciting discussions among the crowd where we can easily see that the actor has wooed the audience for last many years in such a manner that the director felt that there is some sense in releasing the movie by name "FAN" because of the empowered fame Shahrukh has gained!

Salman Khan is already famous in the society because of his "BEING HUMAN" commitment he has given to himself by establishing that brand in the public. Even clothing material has been tagged by this brand name where younger generation is crazy behind using this brand on their taste of clothing fashions they wear in the common parlance!

Akshay Kumar is a popular actor because of his stunts and the patriotism he is exhibiting through movies. Aamir Khan is an actor who outshines himself by his unique features of personality and conviction which brings iconic value in his life!

All the above examples are having some relevance with respect to the empowerment they have developed in the Bollywood Industry. However the said is the realistic fact in their life but the life of everyone can not be like that and when we try to adopt such values it looks like Empowerment is MYSTIFIED.

The glory of everything can be maintained properly when we make ourselves aware of true facts related to that glory! The same way....there is a need to understand the meaning of Empowerment in Kali Yuga before it hoodwinks you! Overall economic scenario has changed in the current times where value of rupee has diminished drastically and then not bothering about the economy, the common man is just bothered about things to buy and get attracted towards everything which is materially eclipsed. We are not noticing the implications of the same and because of that empowerment has also changed its Avtaar!

I always question myself that Lord Shrikrishna taught exact values of empowerment to Arjuna and because of that although Arjuna was a great Archer, he did not use his archery everywhere unnecessarily because Lord Shrikrishna had also preached him to create empowerment wherever necessary on the path of Only DHARMA i.e. the duties which he is supposed to perform based upon destiny based desires which everyone has. On the contrary, Duryodhana had depicted mystified Empowerment which was not genuine empowerment which will be for leading himself and even others well. It was just a self focused and obscure mission for Duryodhana.

When in one of my lectures I had asked one question to one student of Management about "Are you a leader?" and he  had said, "Sir, I am not a leader for now but when I shall become  CFO or CEO of some organization that time I may call myself as a leader!" Isn't it a miserable situation in his life that he is not getting the definition of the leader or even he is not able to find out the fact that he is a leader now.....but can not become the leader 10-15 years down the line when he will become CFO or CEO of the organization???

Everyone is concerned about the empowered position of him or her but they cant be leaders now and that is why empowerment is a mystified expression and fact of  life!

Also the values inculcated for the act of empowerment are not in place and hence we are observing mystery in the said expression! Empowerment should arise from within but it is not an external phenomena. The external forces have become so strong that they are not letting the empowerment getting grown from within. Competition and Comparison have made every human being a stressed entity where diseases have started empowering the people and many times it is nothing but a mystified empowerment, isn't it?

In the jungle, still the wild life has kept its glory in the same way it was 20 years back although because of certain images like "CROCODILE MAN and such similar nomenclatures", no wonder if the wild animals have changed their way of empowering themselves in the jungle because of high interventions of humans for the sake of researching habits of wild lives!!!! :-)

Because in the Satya Yuga, even troops of monkeys were empowered by Lord Rama in such a fashion that they won over the battle with cunning Ravana and escaped Sita easily, can we call this just  a mere coincidence? So friends,we must ask following questions-

Am I empowering myself with my true potentials of personality?
Am I making people empower themselves properly and with genuine respect?
Am I a terrorist of my own sweet life by mystifying the real facts of life to lead?
Am I like Rajnikant who is a heartthrob of many all over the world through Tollywood reel life but in real life as down to earth as any commonly uncommon man who realizes the authenticity of actual liveliness of life?
Why should I empower and whom should I ask to empower?

All such questions will have answers gradually in our life provided we are justifying our empowerment rather than mystifying them and at the same time we are empowering quite naturally by keeping respect of other entities and even our own SELF!!!!

An empowered salute to all by empowering my own thinking process!!!!

Best Regards,

Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Member of  CCA, Canada
www.soulomkar.com
www.your24hcoach.com
Professional Musician

Tuesday 26 January 2016

Meditation- not an advertisement but a tool of self integrity without showing an attitude

Hello All,

Greetings!

I have been writing after a long time! The subject I have chosen for writing is quite common now a days because of its hue and cry which is occurring in the society!

Meditation- a journey but not a habit! Meditation - not an advertisement but a tool of self integrity without showing any attitude!

Now a days Meditative processes have become a fashion in the society to release the stress. People opt for this as a way to stylize the life but it does not suffice! People at one side involve themselves in meditation and at other end they have lot of reservations and attitude also.

I always question- How would the person transform as even this meditative technique is not helping him/her?

The above question is quite relevant.

One real example I want to quote here-

Last week I had been to one college for one personality development competition where I curiously went to meet the dignified person in the college which is a great personality. I had just gone there to say Hello to her and share few things as I was meeting her after a long time in person. The person in front of me is supposed to be an entity who is involved with meditative processes a lot these days and hence I was pretty sure that there is a transformation which is occurring....and I was also assuming that she will talk to me with the same intensity she had previously when we used to share a lot about Spirituality! However the scenario was totally different where I found that she had lot of cobwebs in mind...she did not even speak to me properly. She avoided talking to me. Forget about what has happened in the past.... My point of contention is pretty clear that through such cosmic elements which we adopt in our life; should have only positive transformation...where come what may...the person meditating should have nothing in mind except positive expression....or even neutralized feeling about everything. But that lady seemed to be very arrogant that day. She was sticking to the past instead of activating her mind centres appropriately. It was not awakening moment but a disappointing moment for me as I had never made any chaos with respect to the incidents in relevance with our professional relations and still the kind of scenario I could see was disheartening that why people portray falsely by opting for such so called meditating processes in life because although Meditation as a concept is very progressive and mortal and it can be accepted in life by anybody and it can be made a habit...however my following questions has a deeper meaning-

1. Are you meditating to show of?
2. Are you looking for some source in your life which is assumed to be the best and due to that you will gain lot of respect?
3. What is your goal by gathering people to meditate where even your mindful impressions have not accepted meditation to transcend?
4. Is meditation a process of proving that law of attraction plays a greater role in everybody's life and it is very simple?
5. Why can't you analyse your own actions properly when today's world has lot of liberty in pointing out other's mistake first?
6. Have you adapted to the process of meditation to the extent where cosmos has naturally given you authority to do that?
7. Do you know that meditation is a great journey of many births?
8. Do you know that even if you start meditating, your attitude...approach...egoism will get displayed by your subconscious very clearly?
9. Are you really keen on knowing the meditation as a beautiful and kind process of transformation?
10. Do you really respect what you are doing? :-)


There are many such several questions which are haunting me still...but we have a limit to ask questions because unless and until your mindfulness will have wider spectrum to accept things diligently and without any ambiguity...everything is futile and so is the meditation! Isn't it????

I realized that through the above incident I could get another lesson-
Do not give people merely to impress because impression is like the garbage which if we will throw it in the water...either it will keep floating in the water or it will get saturated in the water where superficially you will feel that water is clean but at the ground...below the surface you may find lot of dirt...So do not get surprised if somebody starts meditating because you never know....who will behave how and why that way?????

Meditation is a beautiful journey and hence do not contract your mindfulness and do not put any restrictions to your goodness when you want to depict that goodness...because Karma is a tool to meditate only without having any knowledge of actual meditation as a concept!

Regards, Amit

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