Thursday, 9 November 2017

Five Good Habits of a growing person who wants to be excellent!

Hi Everyone,

https://www.reverbnation.com/amitdeokule/song/22757406-enlighten-within

Hope you listened to this song....! It talks about Own Enlightenment where nobody can stand as a stumbling block on this path!

Greetings!

Many days I have been thinking about one aspect of every personality and i.e. HABIT!

I have seen that many times even after working harder with someone on his or her personal development there are certain barriers where we can not do anything and may be even it will be difficult for GOD to work on the same of every person now a days!!! :-)

And the said barrier is nothing but our HABITS which stand as a barrier on the path of growth and ultimately success where I want to to term Success as Excellence! The root cause remains as our HABITS...I think it may be because of following reasons and those are-

HABIT-

Lack of HARMONY in our thoughts
Lack of Exact AIM in our personal and professional life
Lack of BURNING DESIRE to achieve anything
Lack of ILLUMINATION/IGNITION in anything we do
Lack of TENACITY to hold on to one passionate thing to opt for in life

The above things become hindrance on the path of success/excellence as we tend to become lazy to regularize certain factors which will help us in growing us! Eventually we realize where at times it is too late to analyze the same. In such a scenario what someone should think of working on and I think that is nothing but OUR HABITS!

HABIT plays a role of our Daily ROBOT who will guide us from morning till night but the only difference is; everyone's ROBOT has different technical problems where especially talking about HABIT...continuous overhauling is necessary with proper direction for our own HABITS!

While thinking about these HABITS of ours...I thought of five good habits which will pave the way towards maximization of one's growth and ultimately attaining excellence in whatever he or she does!

FIVE GOOD HABITS-

1. Look at Habit as if it is your heartbeat where every beat is important in life and at every step
2. Be consistent in doing whatever you decide to
3. Keep your passionate approach always in active mode irrespective of calamities
4. Keep wishing and helping people genuinely whenever there is an opportunity
5. Assuming our normal habits which exist naturally in everyone of us...keep your positive attitude intact!

1. Look at Habit as if it is your heartbeat where every beat is important in life and at every step
- Steve Jobs used to say that work as if it is your last working day...I think if you will consider your habit as your heartbeat then the whole terminology will change to look at habit because for us every heartbeat is important and hence convert your habit into something very precious where it can be like heartbeat without which we can not live life diligently! 

2. Be consistent in doing whatever you decide to- Actually it works like a magic...why magic? Because having consistency, constancy and continuance thereto  in life is absolutely cumbersome and that is why...making it possible will work like a magic...! We tend to be lazy and it becomes a consistent process then we all know what happens!!!! :-)

3. Keep your passionate approach always in active mode irrespective of calamities- I always ask my clients or colleagues or friends...Where is your passion to do anything or search for yourself or find out your own potentials or work in the field you like ? OR Where is your passion to meet gracefully? OR Where is your passion to work with people excellently and with full cooperation?- All these aspects have answer from within and i.e. nothing but working on our passionate approach which we lose and eventually lose its sheen! Passion works like a compassion about our own life...if we have compassion about life then we can reveal our passions and accordingly it becomes our greater habit to follow continuously! 

4. Keep wishing and helping people genuinely whenever there is an opportunity- This is the most crucial task in one's life where wishing somebody genuinely and helping someone from the heart...both these aspects test the person. If we are habituated with these two aspects in life...then things start working out miraculously where rational energy gets spread everywhere. This is where human tendencies boil down to our weird behavioral patterns to curse people rather than proving them as a boon! Tendency is nothing but habit which we all know in the common parlance! At times we are scared to wish and help someone...,right? Let us work on this!

5. Assuming our normal habits which exist naturally in everyone of us...keep your positive attitude intact- This is another challenge for us. Many times we meet some shining personality because of which we get motivated but then the said motivation does not get continued for so long....and again lower energy gets felt! Why? There are lot of externally influenced reasons due to which it occurs as our Mind is so delicate that it can get a scratch at any point of time by absolutely stupid reason and this stupid reason for that person who thinks that way...becomes valuable! Hence at any situation keeping our positive attitude intact...is something to give a thought...,right? Because this can work as our Habit if we will try to be positive and this state of mind either gives you far greater results or far devastating outcomes depending upon the person and his/her tendencies! 


So friends....Let Us Stick to our all above GOOD HABITS from today in such a manner where our growth will be ensured and excellence thereto! 

Are we ready to enhance these HABITS of ours? 

Finally I can only conclude with one very good HABIT which we all have and i.e HeartBeat! Keep your heartbeat constantly healthy! 

Wish you all a great journey ahead! 

Best Regards,

Amit Deokule
Certified Executive Coach at Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching
Certified Life Balance Coach and Master Spirit Life Coach at CCA, Canada
www.soulomkar.com
Professional Musician
Master In Commerce- M.Com
Member of MCCIA

Thursday, 2 November 2017

Leadership, a self study based upon your own experiences with long lived benefits!

Hello All,

After becoming Certified Executive Coach , this is my first article which I am writing after a long time.

The present certification which I completed, it was based upon Leadership and relevant competencies. It was absolutely interesting where global vision has been captured through the syllabus. We as participants from 20 different countries enjoyed the same.

Leadership is a term where collaborative approach for helping oneself comes in the picture first and then it gets spread to other people where widening spectrum gets developed!

Leadership is a continuous process of introspection....where the leader needs to be vigilant while performing because it is said that the leader leads and hence the environment around always keeps a focus on the leader because it is expected that he or she should become the model example for others!

In a way Leadership is a journey of galaxy of real time experiences where that becomes the strength for one's life journey a professional one or personal one!!!!

Why does the Leadership a self study based upon your own experiences with long lived benefits?

There are four to five different aspects which actually stimulates this question in an answered way-

1. It provokes one's observational power
2. By experience it increases the understanding which needs lot of introspection
3. It gives energy to channelize own vision
4. It is a terminology which we use since childhood so...it becomes long lived
5. It is a self actualization process because of diversified communities in the present world

1. It provokes one's observational power- The leader has to have an effective observation about what is happening around...because that works like a clue for him/her to think about next step/action while performing as a leader. Because of subtle observation he or she can fill in the blanks with proper thought process on the same! There is a saying that by keeping mum and just observing things  many times increases our inner power and exactly in return it gives the leader additional long lived benefit even in adverse situations because of the habit of observing things in the first place.

2. By experience it increases the understanding which needs lot of introspection- Understanding things or predominantly people...their choices and then making some changes always helps the leader. For making one good change, needs lot of introspection and sometimes the leader fails in introspecting things....! Once the strength in introspection increases automatically power of understanding things increases....! In an organisation....understanding people can be the masterminded plan where involving them in leadership activities gives a different shape to the whole process.

3. It gives energy to channelize own vision- We all are habituated to follow what we feel comfort with and if this is the fact then relating it to our vision in our professional or personal world may change the look out where it turns out to be the most channelized process to implement. We all have a vision but especially in the position of a leader...the said vision has to be channelized because this clarity itself drives the leader towards success. To be specific in professional world...it is leader's crucial challenge to make people of the organisation to connect their individual visionary approach to the ultimate vision which makes sense when collectively several targets have to be achieved.

4. It is a terminology which we use since the childhood...which becomes long lived- This statement itself has lot of meaning hidden and i.e. it is said that when the child takes birth from mother's womb....enters the world ...it depicts that the said child is a separate entity of his or her own world and there itself the journey of leading himself/herself starts. And hence it gives a sense of reclaiming that I was the leader...II am the leader and I shall be the same.....till the end of my life journey! This is a greater feeling and this shapes up our life process at every step with higher confidence because it lives long because of its characteristics of being in the position of the leader since the childhood. We don't understand the importance of the leadership during that period but invariably we keep working on ourselves like a leader. It can be enumerated as "Leadership quality is within and it is in everyone!"

5. It is a self actualization process because of diversified communities in the present world- Leadership is a concept where all are equal and qualitative because leadership does not have discriminatory aspect involved although it gives us the feeling of being discriminated because we never know what diverse background we are going to work in and then it becomes challenging for everyone to balance the leadership qualities in a diversified environment! In turn....it converts the whole process into self actualization where the realm of the daily life....projects that we are the king
but in reality it is not because of different behavioral patterns and this is the stage where the king has to come to a stage of a common man whom his or her kingdom may be feeding but it is a reality that without these common people....kingdom can not be kingdom and the business of daily life can not be the business in true sense! Hence self actualization process always gives us courage to confront diversified communities and battling out any of them will be an easier task than ever! There is a difference between introspection and self actualization....! An introspection is a phenomena where everything is within where one has to be in his or her own cocoon to make things introspective. However self actualization can be done at every walk because of its simple element and i.e. what you see is what you self actualize to make it understandable! Self actualization is a process to be followed in professional world with some own commitment where further action plan has to be jotted down. However Introspection needs lot of personal commitment in seclusion!

In the above all aspects....the leader will require to do a self study....even if involving stakeholders/people from the organization is essential. Self study is always long lived although few external things like involving people in leadership becomes vital. Self study gives a leader an indication at every step ," Hey you are still a leader....! Wow this is nice....keep it up...still a long way to go as you don't know what lies ahead! Keep working....keep doing good....because till the end of the life may be professional or personal....a single day without self study will not provide good fruits!

Commonly Leader is remembered but we want the leadership to be remembered because of the fact that everyone is a leader! And if this is so then self study with a long lived approach will make lot of sense in carrying forward the legacy of leadership but not the leader!

Embrace leadership and cherish leadership because at this moment it is like we are celebrating leadership!

Thank you,

Amit Deokule
Certified Executive Coach at Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholder Centered Coaching
Certified Life Balance Coach/Master Spirit Life Coach at CCA, Canada
www.soulomkar.com
Professional Musician
M.Com- Master in Commerce

Tuesday, 7 February 2017

How to have a continuity in relationship building as far as trainings are concerned?

Hello All,

Being a life coach, I have always realised one thing while carrying out sessions for different people and organisations...i.e. continuity in building the relationships after trainings where even practising the aspects of trainings and its frequent giving feedback strategy is always missed or skipped. Here the most important part is to take a cognisance of everything we have shared. At the same time, we always try to configure such type of trainings as something of cost which becomes a overburdened activity after certain level and that is where many times few things remain incomplete and then the link gets detached. Here the importance of the continued activity will be known once the organisation unravels certain parameters of people's performances where the resultant outcome is always lack of continuous practice  and that is why life skill trainings can not be taken casually!

One senior person from the IT stream asked me one question who was working on a higher position in a reputed software company and then he started his own IT training consultancy where soft skill training was one of the vital areas, "Amit can we have an evaluation strategy for the people who undergo soft skill trainings for specific period?" I immediately uttered , "First of all, can we observe somewhere that people can have such a training on a continuous basis because then we can have some evaluation tool through which we can get some definite answers of improvements and genuine feedback can take place then!!!" He smiled and said, "You are right Amit! Mind is a terrific and mysterious part of our body which is in reality an invisible but virtual element which hoodwinks us frequently during our life journey but that is where one's challenge always pops up because continuity remains a question as far as some practising tool to use to make certain mindful improvements in our personality is concerned!"

We sleep everyday, take bath everyday, have our lunch and dinner everyday....and it is like a natural training we have but there is a stage where one has to take care because these things are inevitable to have but we also observe some breaks in following these aspects also on time and then we know what happens....The ignorance can spoil our life...and if it is so...then why we are bothered about cost factor every time....when we know that certain things are necessary to do the overhauling to maintain the pace and momentum one should have while living life! Similarly when trainings are being extended...they get extended because of one sheer fact and i.e. proper grooming has to happen/occur where the said preaching/teachings  will be practised exactly on the basis of few tools defined! However cost always puts many positive things on toss and that becomes a hurdle in our growth path! Let us also not deny the fact that cost/budget is like considering that every one makes mistakes but then he/she is being given a chance to improve them with a certain timeline scheduled by having evaluation technique well in advance in one's kitty and everyone tries to make corrections/rectifications as per his/her capacities which is the most important aspect. Similarly one should look at trainings because third angle really works like a 3D effect and the said effect is necessary because mind is a game of perspective where stumping out someone is always possible but continuously showing consistency to play constantly well is something missing always where even player like Tendulkar or Federer or Ronaldo....who in the common parlance are being recognised as an excellent players in their games but how much consistent they have been in their career is a theory of relativity to assess! Hence when we say that it is relative term...when we actually relate things in reality with genuine thought process and that is exactly lagging behind!

Now let me know how many of you will continuously seek my training sessions! :-) Post feedback and continuous sharing will surely help where cognisance of different people in different capacities will get a chance to develop good relations with each other where Prism will not be needed to assess them but natural progression to remain connected always helps, right? Try it....experiment it and execute it!

Warm Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Global Coach of CCA, Canada
www.soulomkar.com
Professional Musician










Tuesday, 11 October 2016

How to keep goodness intact while working in an organisation or in personal world???

Hello All,

Greetings!

It is difficult to be good as keeping one's energy positive is a task because of several behavioural patterns human being has! We differ ourselves in professional and personal environment deliberately many times for the sake of maintaining ethics of respective atmospheric essence but one should not forget that our mindfulness is our own asset which can get depreciated because of such a compromise we tend to do! Maintaining decorum of any professional place is not bad or even maintaining discipline in such an environment is not wrong and the same is the case which we follow in our personal world where mannerisms do not change but way of following them does make a change. However in all such modalities, one has a crucial task to do and i.e. keeping goodness intact in all such environmental occurrences!

In Spiritual doctrines...we read that how Godly personalities maintained their goodness throughout even though they faced many adversities due to some cunning personalities in front of them! However considering that we all will confront such adversities everywhere we go....what the challenges would be and how we can overcome them; is a thing to give a thought over, right? More than that assuming that adversities will always remain with us, how we can maintain our goodness in such circumstances; is a conviction to look at it!

Increase observation and compassion in vision- 

We all observe things but because of our subconscious mind which shows lot of colours ; every person's capacity of observation defers but here if we can focus on our observation meticulously, it will surely help us in taking steps in moments more calmly and at the same time, it will also increase compassionate approach of looking at every situation differently where positive attitude will get cultivated to a larger extent after practising the same diligently! Good Observation enhances our understanding capacity to identify the situation.

Practise Emotional Intelligence-

We all have emotions and it is an integral part of our mindfulness and we also possess intelligence but then even after having both the aspects, why we behave irrationally and in a falsifying manner! We may not have an immediate answer but then here we will need to break the normal way of looking at behavioural mirror of the human being because there is something called as emotional intelligence which can be developed only by human and that is why to inculcate goodness in us, this is the best practising tool we can have in both the areas i.e. professional and personal world.

Wear an image of a Joker in our life where one will get to know the inner feeling of every person-

This is the most important role we can start assuming in our life. There are examples in my life where people around me keep JOKER as their Idol in life because it keeps their good emotion alive and they believe in this fact a lot. The way Joker makes us laugh but at the back of his mind when we try to know real facts we get to know that he is over poured with true emotions and he has more compassionate approach to look at life because of inner adversities he always fights with! So if we will try to understand the role of a Joker in one's life...we will surely increase respectful attitude in every respect!

Always look down towards those category of people who struggle a lot in life and lead a more miserable life than us-

I am aware that this may not be a great way of assuming things in life but consider that every person is a human being irrespective of the situation in life and of course the status because this way every one of us will get a way to see the situation more wisely...let it be a professional life or personal one!
Here also assume that we do not get everything in life but we can procure one thing in life based upon our developing approach of training ourselves and i.e. nothing but goodness in ourselves which has no limitation survive and to compare with. And hence looking down towards such a community of people who get things in life by struggling a lot. Once we will get to know the authenticity of this situational condition of a human, we will not underestimate anyone in life and that will keep our goodness intact. Experiment it and imagine the same....gradually one can surely analyse the severity of it.

Have taste in some spiritual element according to our own belief-

Let us not believe in spirituality 100% but it is 100% sure that everyone has some taste in some element which is spiritual and it is his or her comfort zone which keeps on giving him/her courage to live life with confidence and that should be the ultimate core value to keep our belief system about humanity intact. Many times there may be incidences in our professional or even personal life where we may have behaved in a way which is not ethical so far as human values are concerned and it is not something to be blamed but considering that we all go wrong at some stage....believing in such similar spiritual values will add lot of strength in one's life and it will in turn help us in keeping goodness in the right manner.

All the above techniques can surely keep our goodness alive and proper.
Life has to unfold many surprises in everyone's area of potentials and hence if we do not want to miss those moments of making our life interesting every opportunity has to be made good by considering that this is the last chance to make something precious and this reminds me of Steve Job's statement on the basis of which he lived his life very successfully and i.e. "Do everything as if it is our last working day in our life!" and this statement always encourages me, will it encourage you to keep goodness intact?  Let us be well wishers of each other  because this way positive energy will get spread radically and it will surge up the core value of everyone's life to lead it in the most excellent manner!

All the best wishes to all!

Regards, Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Global member of CCA Canada,
Professional Musician
www.soulomkar.com

How to keep goodness intact while working in an organisation or in personal world???

Hello All,

Greetings!

It is difficult to be good as keeping one's energy positive is a task because of several behavioural patterns human being has! We differ ourselves in professional and personal environment deliberately many times for the sake of maintaining ethics of respective atmospheric essence but one should not forget that our mindfulness is our own asset which can get depreciated because of such a compromise we tend to do! Maintaining decorum of any professional place is not bad or even maintaining discipline in such an environment is not wrong and the same is the case which we follow in our personal world where mannerisms do not change but way of following them does make a change. However in all such modalities, one has a crucial task to do and i.e. keeping goodness intact in all such environmental occurrences!

In Spiritual doctrines...we read that how Godly personalities maintained their goodness throughout even though they faced many adversities due to some cunning personalities in front of them! However considering that we all will confront such adversities everywhere we go....what the challenges would be and how we can overcome them; is a thing to give a thought over, right? More than that assuming that adversities will always remain with us, how we can maintain our goodness in such circumstances; is a conviction to look at it!

Increase observation and compassion in vision- 

We all observe things but because of our subconscious mind which shows lot of colours ; every person's capacity of observation defers but here if we can focus on our observation meticulously, it will surely help us in taking steps in moments more calmly and at the same time, it will also increase compassionate approach of looking at every situation differently where positive attitude will get cultivated to a larger extent after practising the same diligently! Good Observation enhances our understanding capacity to identify the situation.

Practise Emotional Intelligence-

We all have emotions and it is an integral part of our mindfulness and we also possess intelligence but then even after having both the aspects, why we behave irrationally and in a falsifying manner! We may not have an immediate answer but then here we will need to break the normal way of looking at behavioural mirror of the human being because there is something called as emotional intelligence which can be developed only by human and that is why to inculcate goodness in us, this is the best practising tool we can have in both the areas i.e. professional and personal world.

Wear an image of a Joker in our life where one will get to know the inner feeling of every person-

This is the most important role we can start assuming in our life. There are examples in my life where people around me keep JOKER as their Idol in life because it keeps their good emotion alive and they believe in this fact a lot. The way Joker makes us laugh but at the back of his mind when we try to know real facts we get to know that he is over poured with true emotions and he has more compassionate approach to look at life because of inner adversities he always fights with! So if we will try to understand the role of a Joker in one's life...we will surely increase respectful attitude in every respect!

Always look down towards those category of people who struggle a lot in life and lead a more miserable life than us-

I am aware that this may not be a great way of assuming things in life but consider that every person is a human being irrespective of the situation in life and of course the status because this way every one of us will get a way to see the situation more wisely...let it be a professional life or personal one!
Here also assume that we do not get everything in life but we can procure one thing in life based upon our developing approach of training ourselves and i.e. nothing but goodness in ourselves which has no limitation survive and to compare with. And hence looking down towards such a community of people who get things in life by struggling a lot. Once we will get to know the authenticity of this situational condition of a human, we will not underestimate anyone in life and that will keep our goodness intact. Experiment it and imagine the same....gradually one can surely analyse the severity of it.

Have taste in some spiritual element according to our own belief-

Let us not believe in spirituality 100% but it is 100% sure that everyone has some taste in some element which is spiritual and it is his or her comfort zone which keeps on giving him/her courage to live life with confidence and that should be the ultimate core value to keep our belief system about humanity intact. Many times there may be incidences in our professional or even personal life where we may have behaved in a way which is not ethical so far as human values are concerned and it is not something to be blamed but considering that we all go wrong at some stage....believing in such similar spiritual values will add lot of strength in one's life and it will in turn help us in keeping goodness in the right manner.

All the above techniques can surely keep our goodness alive and proper.
Life has to unfold many surprises in everyone's area of potentials and hence if we do not want to miss those moments of making our life interesting every opportunity has to be made good by considering that this is the last chance to make something precious and this reminds me of Steve Job's statement on the basis of which he lived his life very successfully and i.e. "Do everything as if it is our last working day in our life!" and this statement always encourages me, will it encourage you to keep goodness intact?  Let us be well wishers of each other  because this way positive energy will get spread radically and it will surge up the core value of everyone's life to lead it in the most excellent manner!

All the best wishes to all!

Regards, Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Global member of CCA Canada,
Professional Musician
www.soulomkar.com

Saturday, 3 September 2016

How to control your anger wherever you are? Five aspects of controlling it!

Hi All,

Greetings!

I was in one organisation few days back and I was waiting at the reception for the CEO's meeting to get over as I had an appointment with him that day for some official work. While I was sitting there at the reception...I happened to observe one incident where one vendor had come to collect the cheque for the service provided and he was told that cheque it not ready and he will require to visit the organisation again in the next week. The moment the vendor got to know that he is not getting the payment, he called up his office and informed accordingly. While talking over the phone, I could make out that the boss of him was furious and was scolding him like anything where it was not that person's fault but still patiently he was listening to him and then after keeping the phone down, he silently but with lot of stress mentioned at the reception that in the next week if it will not be ready then we may require to levy you an interest amount and my boss will send the mail to your accounts department immediately after observing the scenario and he went off.

The above was not a very serious incident but looking at the face of the vendor and the conversation he had with his boss, he seemed like a victim where unnecessarily he had to bear the scolding from his boss. He was angry but with a great control he could depict that at the reception even after experiencing the mistake of the organisation not handing over the payment. However that simple scenario made me think about it and accordingly my thinking tank got activated tremendously to extend the thought process in such a manner where how someone can really control the anger. Anger management in present conditions makes lot of sense because of high competitiveness and accordingly the pressure under which we all have been working in the professional world!

I could recollect those days when I was working in the organisation in finance department and how I used to deal with my anger. Yes...there were few loopholes which I wanted to work on but gradually I had seen improvement. Over the years, I have revealed that ANGER has five aspects by which it can be controlled. In the current trend of the industrial world, we can surely imagine what pressure these executive people like  CEOs, CFOs. CTOs and COOs must be managing and what they must be doing when tremendous work pressure invade them!!!

Controlling anger is like having control on your spending on unnecessary things....controlling your diet if it is getting excessive! And yes...it is very much possible! Our subconscious is invisible but is very powerful in storing things which our mind desires for and at appropriate time, it pops up to fulfil those desires but rapid conversion of audio-visual  facts and circumstances into a calm moment is something to take a challenge for! I started practising to control my anger by keeping myself in solitude for some time and draining out all those negative aspects which have been saturated in my subconscious by speaking to myself or at times, sharing the same with someone who can tolerate you with his/her patient listening skills! At the same time, I felt that even our vision can also be automatically get set like a machine after few rounds of practice where we can change the mode of our mindfulness whenever there is an opportunity cost of anger which may increase situation wise.

Five aspect to automate process of controlling anger-

Accuracy in sensing surroundings and be aware of the same-
Many times when we get angry we tend to forget about the surroundings and people around us and that is where if  we have accurate understanding of the same then things would definitely be fine and we can surely sense the atmospheric mood while dealing with people. In professional world predominantly this helps us a lot because everything depends upon our demeanour in the organisation and it affects or effects our appraisal (KRAs). Here the anger management is crucial to control with.

Nourishment of our weak areas of behaviour and try to change the pattern-
If we love ourselves but at the same time if we know our weak areas while finding ourselves and our own path, then things would surely suffice the way they are expected. Each coin has two sides and many times we ignore our negatives simply by saying that every person has negatives! However this is where one has to work a bit more because of the complexity of mind God has given to everyone. Sometimes we may require to do some superficial changes in our personality because of the professional commitments we give to the organisations we are working in. Here continuously working on our weak areas helps us to grow properly at work places. Here at personal level we have to work rigorously by opting for some cosmic/spiritual medium of anger management techniques where results can be better although not up to the mark.

Glorify our potentials to the extent possible-
If we know who we are and for what purpose we are living, then this basic philosophical question many times solves the issue. If we know our abilities and capacity areas where we can give our best always....anger management can easily remain at a minimal level. Also finding out potentials of your own; is not sufficient but working on them in such a manner where you will glorify the same to the extent possible where you will not have frustration at all at every step of life even though tensions will pester you. Here one has to take care that at any point of time, do not get pampered by the people around because that causes danger for sure as far as your behavioural occurrences are concerned.

Eliminating unnecessary elements of our personality-
When we work closely with people in organisations, our minute things can be observed and then criticising them becomes vital where one has a responsibility of eliminating those unnecessary elements of personality. For e.g. many times we work in a team and as a usual habit sometimes, our weaknesses of the personality get aggravated and it can cause tremendous loss to our own self and the people around. Some person may have a usual habit of playing with some instruments by taking them in hands or some people may have a habit of slouching/fidgeting which can put  a bad impression. By having considered such habits then our small weaknesses can be magnified in such a way where our anger may get increased in such cases and that is why we must try to eliminate such unnecessary elements of our personality.

Rationalising approach of detachment-
To avoid any misunderstanding or furious situations we must have a positive/rational approach at every point of time. Here also law of detachment makes lot of sense. And we can do this. While working in organisations, we should keep our habits in such a manner where project wise our vision will get detached at the right time due to which our position will remain intact and we will get fair justice to our contribution for the project and at the same time,getting detached from the same will take us ahead to think about next innovation! Also giving up few things...by thinking about positives of forthcoming situations helps us to configure our approach quite well. Also it improves the efficiency of the team and the whole organisation thereto. At personal level, to become stress free law of detachment with rational approach will help us a lot because at personal level we become insecure at times and infrequent solutions on this might cause a big loss. Hence rational approach in every moment can keep us motivated where it in turn helps us to get attached to law of detachment and accordingly keep our anger in control.

So friends, this is the most killing enemy of one's life and we want to become victims of this or we want to set us free by not attaching ourselves to ANGER; can be a thoughtful process to follow for now. Thank you and Salute to all existences on this earth without having anger, envy, rudeness, ruthlessness, revengeful feeling etc.

Best Regards, Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Affiliate member of CCA, Canada
Professional Musician
www.soulomkar.com

Sunday, 14 August 2016

Communication and its effectiveness irrespective of any language where five aspects play an integral role!!!!

Hello All,

Communication, this process was born when we were born on this earth or before we were born…the process was in existence where the nature was very inquisitive in communicating with different beings and we as human beings….was the best ever communication channel because of which this process got glorified a lot by many as the revolution kept on happening.
Right now, by writing an article on this I am also in a way adopting some communication method to reach to you all and I am sure that once it will reach to you in one of the finest ways…then my journey of writing this article will flourish more and more.
In this article I thought it prudent to put such aspects in front of you which actually make the process very healthy and quite natural more than anything else. I always imagine that many spiritualists or Godly people like Jesus Christ, Lord Shrikrishna and such other personalities were used to have a very effective communication with all due to which they could win over millions of people and they are still remembered.
There used to have no difference between personal and professional communication to that extent or if it is there then particularly it has not been mentioned anywhere with peculiar enunciation. However our mindful brain can definitely extend the imagination to the highest possible extent to know how the communication could have been and how it should be now!
Charlie Chaplin used to communicate with people through his expressions, body language and overall actions because of which he used to make us laugh and that was the most crucial act of him ever where it can be one of the model examples of effective communication. Similarly platform may change but effectiveness always depends upon the utilization of one’s personal potential strengths with respect to the situation & its response.
After thinking a lot and working with many people till date, I could analyze that the important five aspects which I am enumerating here can be useful in our professional area wherever we are working irrespective of the language.

FIVE ASPECTS OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

1.      Honesty and Integrity paves the way for- There is always a hue and cry in organizations with respect to the honesty of the person or even what we call it as Integrity. Because of this, I have seen that the communication, too has the impact with a greater intensity. It is said that your mind & its impression cannot be hidden because it reflects what you are doing and who you are as a person and that is exactly proportional to your way of communication in the society or organizations wherever you work. Honesty has to be naturally existing within the person and if it is not there then it may lead us to hamper the process of communication. Many barriers remain as it is in our mindful personality and it shows when we communicate. Many times, just due to sheer hiding of a fact disturbs our communication process and then everything starts going wrong where the stage comes and we see ourselves getting stuck with some problematic situation. Instead clear and honest way of communication may create problems sometimes but then finding solutions on the same becomes more easier in such scenarios because our validity with respect to our integrity increases our face value.

2.      Expressional Power especially our smile- Of late, I have observed that the more powerful our expressions are, more effective the conversation will be because of our expressive presence. Many times, people understand what somebody wants to say just by mere but fabulous expressions. If you are honest then your expressions do not hide what you want to say….and it is quite natural phenomena but now a days we are able to see how fabricated expressions we have on the face while interacting with someone!!!! Our attitude changes our expressions and that power becomes pale act all of a sudden due to some egoistic approach getting portrayed. Hence 0.01% of expressional change can be observed if we are perfectly on the track with respect to the communication! Smile also creates positive vibes in the atmosphere and hence fabricated smile can be made out or even true smiles can be judged and then accordingly people many times choose communication channels to adopt for!  You can imagine that you are in the office and just have entered the ambience where one of your colleagues come in front of you who is jealous of your position and then he deliberately gives you a smile which does not have that expected zeal and then you proclaim, “Early in the morning…I had to confront someone who hates me and his/her smile has passed on some bad energy…!” It triggers unnecessary power towards you and then you know what happens….! J Hence Expressional power makes a difference!

3.      Convincing approach towards life- When we hover around the professional world, it does not restrict us to that because we all carry unwarranted burden of our personal life with us and then it affects our communication in professional atmosphere. We all are not the exception to this, right? Due to this sheer fact, one should start realizing that if we are convinced with why we are living on this earth then….everything will change positively! Many times I say that we must realize our own value of life in the first place because then there will be some spice or essence to live the life diligently! Communication is an act where our mindful brain always responds or reacts but while doing that our other thoughts in subconscious make the process smooth or hard as per the state of our mindful brain. So be convinced with your own life first and then get into your professional world because the frame of mind which you will carry that time will have lot of hold on every action of yours and so is the case in communication!

4.      Passionate Conversational  Habit- This is the most effective way to adopt but at the same time the most crucial ever because passion is something which has to be found out from within….and for the person it takes many times the whole of his/her life to reveal that passionate quality! I may be exaggerating but it is a fact that passion solves many problems of our personality and it is a precious tool for communication. Communication is a process where there has to be an authenticity from the origin till the destination! To get habituated with passionate conversation, we will require to work on ourselves a lot because the same thing is going to decide our way of communication thereafter!  It is true that we all are not active communicators but many times passiveness is liked by many. However think of the same scenario and analyze if you have benefited out of this passive communication….!!! You may have benefited because being a listener changes the perspective at times but when we talk about communication as a process…it takes a toll to arrive at a positive conclusion of this process. Many great legendary speakers have this passionate conversational habit which has taken a birth from their original quality of doing something passionate in life and this has to be learnt from these people for sure.

Keeping human aspect alive- I always remember respected  Ratan Tata for his human aspect which he always kept alive and hence today also when I think of Tata group…I think of only Ratan Tata and likewise there are many people for whom he is an inspiration in the industrial world. The reason is simple and it is; he was a great human being although he owns such a large empire like a monarch! I have seen that wherever there is a lack of human aspect, things become pernicious and the days comes where appeasement becomes impossible to have during that situation. Why is it so? Because of lagging behind with human element where at every stage of your communication with someone, it really helps us a lot! So keeping human aspect alive; is like carrying natural legacy ahead with a rational approach in life. This principle is very applicable in one’s professional life as well. I have observed the management philosopher Marshall Goldsmith when he speaks…he has a human aspect and I have also experienced his way of taking notes where I had received one email from him acknowledging my thoughts and song which I had sent it across. I was not really expecting that he will write back to me but when I received his email, I was overwhelmed with his kind hearted approach. Hence to keep communication healthy this last but very important aspect should not be forgotten and i.e. human aspect liveliness…! It changes the periphery of one’s communication process and angle everywhere.

So now we all should find ourselves perfect in our positions to follow these aspects. I still learn a lot by adhering to all the above aspects and it gives fantastic result…! I am the one who has lot of trust in this because right now I am communicating with all of you with only one feeling in mind and i.e. I want to be a good communicator in days to come and because of you all, I can do that! Hats off to you all! Enjoy your daily communication! Write to me as well at amit@soulomkar.com

Thank you! 

Amit Deokule

Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
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