Thursday 28 October 2021

Being Genuine requires courage! Five ways to work on genuineness in professional world- Isn't it exciting?

One day while relaxing in leisure time, I pronounced the word "Genuine" and I realized that I had to take efforts in pronouncing since the word seemed challenging within itself! There can be just a lip movement while pronouncing this word but it comes from within subtly which I strongly felt! 

It made me think of many professional and even personal incidences from the past! When integrity is much talked about; what makes sense is your genuineness to act! It gave me lot of flashes from the professional world predominantly because in the professional world it has started taking grip mainly after pandemic! It does not mean that it was not the case earlier but currently the state of genuineness is making lot of importance at every step because we have many challenges to cope up with! I feel high competition and comparison are one of those impactful concepts reflecting genuineness and this is becoming a difficult stage to achieve! Based on my empirical experience as a coach after handling many individual assignments of professionals and entrepreneurs in the industry so far, I have come up with the following five aspects to work on our genuineness. I totally admit here that genuineness is a state which directly co-relates with our behavioral pattern but since skill development matters most now a days genuine approach will play an integral part in everyone's professional life as per my perception! The following aspects which I am enumerating here are as per my opinion after meeting variety of professionals/entrepreneurs so far- 

1. Transparency- Many times we experience small hiccups while working on some tasks in an organization or even in our daily life. These small hiccups can make the situation severe if we do not pay attention at every step of the action we are taking or the task we are performing. And hence I feel transparency at every step will prove one's genuine approach to work on the task or the action one is taking while performing! Being transparent is like clean and pure water! If we will have transparency then all the processes will be refined and even will be kept lively retrospectively! 

2. Consistency- While working in professional or personal life we focus on many aspects but then at times we continue to have a laid back approach or little lethargy or aimlessness due to which the state of consistency is lacked and it is essential factor in everyone's life. Temporary realization does not work for us where several breakages create lot of gap in between and it also develops inconsistent progressive path! Consistency is like the superlative nature which perceives all calamities as they come but revival is the mantra constantly for the nature. I would emphasize on having rejuvenation in such a scenario to keep consistency alive!

3. Appropriate Communication- In leadership era, what is the most common but a global phenomena or a skill to work upon? It is nothing but communication. Clear and healthy communication is challenging where many times several gaps remain. However if we are absolutely lucid in our thoughtful communicative process at every step, it signifies our genuineness. Here I feel majorly intention will keep on popping up. It will have to be clear in every action that we take.

4. Introspection at a constant pace- Our life has become very stressful these days and after pandemic I think overall way of life has changed drastically and in such a scenario what will put an impression; is nothing but an Introspection after specific time interval! Many times we do not take time to relax and introspect about several occurrences which keep happening in our life! However sparing time additionally for this will make our life more meaningful because in turn it will reflect our genuineness because based on our introspection, re-verifications, corrections, re-assessments improvisation can be done more efficiently and constructively. Improvement is a bliss for one's uninterrupted life process. 

5. Practicing human values- In my coaching journey I had came across one institution in India which is rigorously working on human values these days. I had an opportunity to present my two research papers in this institution's national and international conference where several people had researched on human values and after listening to them in the conference and even after working with several individuals through my coaching assignments I realized that practicing human values is one of those precious elements for portraying genuineness in the professional or even personal world. Increase in crimes, revengeful approach of people have been making people's lives miserable currently and hence to depict genuine approach by sticking to pure human values will always reinstate our life situation.

At the outset to conclude with I want to reiterate the same thing as mentioned once again and i.e. Being genuine requires courage and it can be a way of life. In leadership establishment genuineness plays a vital role but adhering to the above five ways to work on genuineness will keep the state lively and refreshing where one's action or intention to do something will enhance the originality of everyone of us, right? 

Best wishes to all and a genuine salute to all! Thank you!

Amit Deokule

Life Balance and Executive Leadership Coach

Master Spirit Life Coach

NLP Certified Practitioner/Emotional Intelligence Practitioner


 


Friday 28 May 2021

Importance of Ethics and Protocols and five elements portraying unique framework of both!

Hi Everyone,

Greetings!

After a long time, I have been getting in touch with you through my own Soulomkar' blog. 

The reason is such where because of Ethics & Protocols and its improper utilization in the external world around, I felt like writing little more as per my coaching experience so far! 

There is no need to really state the meaning of the same (both the terminologies) but in an innovative manner it can be as follows-

Ethics depict your personal inner core and Protocols project professional/personal discipline in the outside world! Both are inter dependent and inter linked! 

Ethics & Protocols are like roots & stem of the blossoming flower respectively! 

Ethics and Protocols can be like Bat and Ball in the cricket where without that we can not hit fours and sixes. 

Ethics and Protocols can be like Action and Reaction where depending upon that here it gets converted into positive or negative response as the case may be! 

The major focus is; either of the concept and its under utilization or wrong usage or over powering can disturb the channel for which Ethics and Protocols are being directed to strengthen the framework!

However Ethics and Protocols are essential factors for any smallest every activity that the person does and then how organizations/firms/trusts can avoid this!!!! 

I have seen many organizations not following ethics or ignoring them even after committing mistakes. In case of even one personal case, it is necessary or not.... to commit the mistake by accepting it! But our Ego is a very important factor in the mankind and hence such aspects are getting overlooked. 

So here We can really check what can be those five elements portraying unique framework where blending of Ethics and Protocols will always give fantastic results-

1. Practicing goodness to the best possible extent as there can always be thin line between ethics and protocols

2. Knowing our behavioral limits and be prepared culturally to follow aspects situationally by giving proper justice

3. Increase response to stimuli by cultivating rational approach to every process and system we follow in our personal or professional life

4. Balancing professional and personal wheel of life in a way which will glorify performance and growth because ethics and protocols always derive hope rising moments...where discipline, transparency, openness, courage....all these aspects play integral role!

5. Always keep expression of gratitude alive and respectfulness for every being, situation/incident and its outcome!

Hence for the above aspects.....being complacent will not help but being grounded will always restore the karma theory in an assertive manner. 

So let us all including myself rejuvenate our new ways and means to look at Ethics and Protocols because they can keep people together with so much of truthfulness, genuineness and preciseness!

Regards,

Amit Deokule

Life Balance Coach/Master Spirit Life Coach

Executive Leadership Coach at MGSCC

NLP Certified Practitioner 

Musician ( Singer, Poet/Writer, Composer, Tabla Player)

M.com

Website- www.soulomkar.co.in

Email- soulomkar@gmail.com

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Saturday 31 October 2020

What abstains us from doing something positive even after knowing how to execute the same???? Five Major aspects!

 Hi Everyone,

Greetings!

For last many days I had not written a blog and hence I came up with something where even my own example can be given where at times why we do not extend our positive outlook even after being aware that it gives us rational energy!!! :-) :-) :-)

Being positive has several meanings if we intend to take out those many! However to become positive it takes a toll! After meditating for so many years, Lord Ravana used his spiritual power to dupe or trouble people and hence there is something called as accident prone area or grey area which proves to be dangerous at times and hence it is inevitable to identify the same in our own personality since we all are not perfect but want to be appropriate to the extent possible! Hence working on those loopholes can help us in knowing where we get stuck with something negative in different situations!

The best example can be given of Mr. Mark Zuckerberg of Facebook who in a very short period of time made FB a platform where the whole world exists with apt presence and we can search for anybody in the universe! This digital transformation was possible due to tremendous positive outlook towards innovation and the best part is; even after getting bombarded with legal or professional allegations, he is confronting the same rationally and keeping his stake at his best with respect to FB where even we could witness that how rapidly he could take over Whatsapp and make it bigger and precious with demand and need both sailing in the same boat!

There are majorly few aspects which need to be stated over here when in situation, our own behavioral pattern abstains us from doing something positive even after knowing how to execute the same!!!!

1. Our own misconceptions or adamant pattern to prove something wrong

2. Our habit of non acceptance 

3. Egoism is another important aspect to think of

4. Our approach of not making changes or getting confused without experimenting things and verify the results of every aspect with the same positive outlook

5. Keeping limited sense of Satisfaction where our own limited boundaries keep us demotivated

Our habits which have been getting continued for years together where when the stage comes to re-define the life process with different set of habit nurturing aspects, we fail to make that transformation just by sheet thought that it may not give us targeted results! Idleness/Lethargy, Ambiguity in thoughts, Falsifying image of our own life, Envying others or many such things get depicted through our own personality! There is another thing which is very important and i.e lack of focused life, lack of dreams/goals in life! 

It is not viable to blame people who help you in having right approach for life! And getting confused is the best way to avoid doing things! The human being is that way very clever in showing other's impotency in ability but they do not realize that actually it is their inability! 

Start with your own conviction and it is the best life achievement where no blame game gets played ever!

So if you agree, then open the doors which you were avoiding to enter into and let us start progressively by taking into consideration every failure which will come your way to face! 

Me,too....have started working on it! not that me,too movement! Mind well....:-) :-) 

Be positive....do not calculate...just experience and feel! 

Regards,

Amit Deokule

Life Balance/Master Spirit Life Coach at CCA, Canada

Executive Leadership Coach at MGSCC

NLP Certified Practitioner, Udemy

Musician- Singer, Writer/Poet, Tabla Player, Composer

M.com

www.soulomkar.co.in


 

 








 




Tuesday 4 August 2020

As a NLP Practitioner what are those five aspects which matter a lot to improve mindfulness?

Dear All,

For last many years I have been working as a Life Balance Coach and it is being seen that maintaining mindfulness is a challenge now a days. As a coach I was realizing this fact but after doing NLP practitioner's certification, I started realizing a bit of more so far as mindfulness is concerned!

Mindfulness is like a car or any vehicle where  it will get maintained if you will have proper psyche to take care of the same and if you will safeguard your own interest to preserve it! Similarly we have lot of things in our life to relate to because Mind is a complex structure of every person where it is very challenging to cope up with the same. Neuro Linguistic Programming is a huge mind game of variety of aspects where this tool can help people in balancing two sides of mindfulness.

After I started thinking as a NLP practitioner, I realized one thing and i.e. if we will consider Mindfulness as our focus in life and everything getting revolved around the same, things would be easier. And that is why there are five aspects which according to me are equally important while growing in life with mindfulness!

1. Cleansing of negative thoughts continuously as if it is a habit of everyday activity
2. Introspection as a process of everyday since it will release bad energy and positive energy will be filled in
3. Taking in stride every disturbing incident as if it is a part and parcel of learning and process of karmic effects which keep popping up at every step of life
4. Focusing on future with determined efforts irrespective of hurdles, stumbling blocks which keep bothering you as per your karma
5. Live in the present moment with whatever we have and with full acceptance keep on living and leading with proper strategy

In other terms in one or two words I would enumerate the above mentioned facts in this manner-

1. Cleansing
2. Introspection
3. Learning
4. Focused approach
5. Present moment

To sum up how NLP can be defined as far as mindfulness is concerned-

  1. NLP is a way of life! It is like you start writing a code and then it traverses you through the whole natural systematized process of mindfulness.
  2. NLP is an introspective journey where the person absolutely learns all external strategies to coincide with inner core! So it is like filtration process alike all 7 chakras of our body!
  3. NLP is like nature's pride where every beautiful or ugly has equal importance as if two sides of one coin and by looking at an ugly side....gradually one starts enjoying the beauty of the nature quite naturally!
  4. NLP is like imagination getting converted into reality where acceptance to everything lively and developing a habit of a visionary have been given a genuine importance!
  5. NLP is the journey from Innocence to Innocence irrespective of the age because that is how it will show the person the way of life!
  6. NLP is an invisible music of mindfulness. It is an aesthetic of rhythm and melody of mind to have a balance in sync! Maintaining the crescendo of each tune is what NLP teaches us!

So friends/colleagues/clients/well-wishers are we ready to absorb the above concepts, digest them and take appropriate actions which will improve your life to the fullest! We do not want to be perfectionist but we want to be like perfectionists, right?

Thanks and Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Executive Leadership Coach
Certified NLP Practitioner
International affiliations
www.soulomkar.co.in
M.com
Musician- Tabla Player, Singer, Composer, Poet, Writer



Thursday 2 July 2020

By remaining in the competition how can you stay focused with your potentials by not being competitive?

Hi All Respected Professionals,

Greetings!

After a long time I am here to write something about something.....!!!! :-) :-) :-)

What is that something? It is nothing but staying focused with our passionate potentials!

But at times, what is that which blocks our thought process and that is nothing but competition!

Competition is an inevitable phenomena but how can we stay strong by focusing our potentials by not being competitive? can be a question!

Fighting spirit is a feeling and identifying exact strength of our mind is a qualitative process to follow!

Economics has some relation at every step of everyone's life! Our wants, needs...our demands and supplies according to the same....fluctuations in numbers....wealth creation....monetary products...all these and such similar concepts keep on affecting every one of us as calculations has become a part and parcel of our life!

Likewise competition talks about calculated risks and this in turn disturbs the position of the human being in the outside world!

Competition is like a proliferation( (we can assume it is like spreading of amoeba) which is not healthy when it touches over-excessive limit of its original ability or strength! Competition is like a share market where fluctuations are bound to occur! Competition is like dreams unlimited or nightmares! Competition is like attraction where primarily it looks super dynamic to follow but after peculiar extent it becomes confusing as one has to choose one out of ample of products!

But to avoid any wrongdoing or any mishap out of this concept, how can we well equip ourselves?

Five aspects to keep yourself strong by focusing your potentials by not being competitive-

1. Considering yourself as unique entity of your own life by asking who you are, what the purpose of living life is-
2. Respecting your own strengths and weaknesses as they are and recognizing threats and opportunities to secure future actions by being aware of your behavior!-
3. Identifying  your potentials at the right time with right perspective-
4. Defining your needs and wants  and be honest on your path-
5. Keep on forming a community of variety of people but those who respect you, those we can be guide or mentor for you or who can be your well wishers always and vice versa!-


It is utterly necessary to self actualize few aspects with conviction and it will help you to authenticate your position in the outside world! For the above aspects I think there is no need to give explanation as they are self explanatory!

One aspect which I have not jotted down in the above points and it is like a hidden treasure and i.e. Habit nurturing. Our habits effect or affect our life and right grooming on our habits will decide the course of action in terms of facing the competition or focusing on right things where competition will not bother you. Can we say, "Let us not have competition with ourselves also!" ???

We have learnt to be competitive where Lord Rama never had a competition in his life and Mahabharata always taught us to be competitive. In Western culture we have always learnt about maintaining ourselves in a cut throat competition. Indian Saints never preached us to be competitive but they spread a word about Bhakti (Taste) which always wins over any adversity in life!

Kali Yuga is just disseminating knowledge about being competitive but this in turn is increasing lot of stress! India is a country where more than 70% of the sector is agricultural sector where actually we are not able to observe competition but farmers are struggling a lot in earning against their produced grains/vegetables/fruits etc. We also should agree that weather conditions are so vulnerable that it is affecting the produce of farmers. On the contrary there is a class of people whose income levels and respective streams involve fierce competition and it is in a way hampering few sectors progressively.

In such a situation, what is the accountability of the human being and it is nothing but focusing all those above five aspects which will keep every human being equal and there will not be anything on discriminatory grounds although we can not have that much perfection and clarity in life for anything!

So how the world was fifty years back and how the world will be after fifty years can be a matter of concern now to mull over! Justice is being served when there are easy ways to progress without politicizing any factual scenario and it is difficult! So friends and professionals let us stay connected with positive outlook and take rational decisions at every step!

Be great be kind...few questions always remain open in any discussion and so is this blog as well! Sharing is the spice of life and it is always with 1% of biased approach and hence no wonder if there is competition as a concept which is fearful for most of the human beings at times and so be remaining in the same how can he or she stay focused with potentials by not being competitive was on the platter, so what do you think....? I am going to have sweet, sour, spicy, delicious, crispy and bitterly in my dinner now! I shall tell you the experience of all items getting served in one go for my dinner and my expression on the same! :-) :-) :-)

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach/Master Spirit Life Coach at CCA, Canada
Executive Leadership Coach at MGSCC
www.soulomkar.co.in
Musician- (Tabla Player, Singer, Poet and Composer)
M.com 


Thursday 30 April 2020

Experiential Artistic Leadership and its modalities/consequences

Hello All Fantastic Professionals,

Greetings!

Hope you all are doing fine and considering Covid-19 as the remedial measure to resurrect your overall vision towards individual life and individuality, you all are prepared! 

Leadership is actually a completeness within itself if we will take it in stride the same concept likewise! Or otherwise it is just a concept for all to carry out in their professional or personal life while performing their respective duties as a part of deliberate system or process!

Some of us will agree to the above statements I have made!

Why do we smile? :-) Because it is our inner core need of life as a matter of quality of expression without which we can not live and our life will be merely hale, right?

It is a natural response which acts like a gratitude for our own life where our life moves ahead due to this ultimate strength! Similarly there are few concepts which feed our personality with lot of action oriented knowledge and on the top I think it is nothing but LEADERSHIP! In such scenario how can we make this concept as an integral part of our life? I want to repeat here once again alike my earlier blogs....We are truly born leaders as after cutting the umbilical chord while taking birth from Mother's womb, the act itself depicts the starting point of leadership in the outside world although it is at a raw level! There are lot of different types of leadership which have been enumerated but I just want to talk about Experiential Artistic Leadership today!

The things could have been covered pertaining to this... earlier but what I want to cover is little different! What is that different?
Just imagine if we will start thinking about greater personalities like Steve Jobs, Jeff Bezos, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, Mr & Mrs Narayanamurthy, Ratan Tata, Sachin Tendulkar, Akshay Kumar, Hon. Prime Minister Narendraji Modi where the way they have initiated their leadership perspective ahead for their and others' life where distinctively what they have done additionally matters a lot! Can we see something experiential where leadership as an art has been properly exhibited by all of them! Even Rishi Munis from India who have scripted spiritual scriptures like Vedas and Upanishadas or allied ones, all have portrayed experiential leadership by foreseeing things and due to that Leadership as a concept has been formulated as an artistic one! An art has always the terminology of heart involved in it and hence real time experience gained from consequences of life engages right expressions which make sense while acting with responses/reactions!

Using prophetic means do not help us in leadership but foreseeing things and then accordingly putting our coins always configure right perceptions! So before I mention the five elements important for inculcating experiential artistic leadership I want to define the same for all of you-

Leadership should become matured in such a manner where experience at every step should be counted as completeness where heart in it to live will make the same artistic! An artist needs emotional intelligence with passionate approach to look at things differently and the same is the case of the leader because then only the leadership secures that intrinsic value in the same!

Five elements/attributes inculcating this leadership-

1. Create Liveliness in experience at every step- At times, we consider life as dead cells and then liveliness gets lost and actually it becomes an essential factor because then experience is counted! Liveliness entails every small moment getting established as something bigger where consideration would be its success in enjoying it the way it is! You have to be analyzer more than judgemental!

2.  Showing compassion at every step for every being you meet- This is a hardening perspective because it has deliberate feeling of showing compassion for every being but believe me being a good listener helps here a lot! And empathy is second attribute here which supports to have a compassionate approach for every being! Keeping a good smile also can help here. Lord Shrikrishna always preached Lord Arjuna to have a compassionate approach and it was not just Arjuna but all Pandavas because of which they won over 100 Kauravas during the war!

3. Unique power of imagination(larger than life) to live life by considering every moment as the last best opportunity-
This is something where most of the people lack and hence to make experience enriching this is much needed. How this can be attained, by considering that our grief is not just the ultimate one to conclude as a wholesome life process and Happiness does not come frequently in everyone's life but can be achieved at every moment if imagination is dynamic where customization in the same according to the situation brings glory! Watching comic aspects always channelize our imagination. This is just one example and for expanding our own horizon of imagining things every situation teaches us but we must develop our approach the same way.

4. Approach of giving something special or unique everyday for yourself and then others and notify it somewhere to refer to it retrospectively whenever needed.- This is another challenging thing for the human being to develop as a habit! We all have tensions, worries, stress of many things but because of that in return' unique approach can get nurtured if we decide to look at it so! I always wonder how few luggage carriers keep a smile on their face at railway stations or at other places wherever they do the job of carrying luggage for people but still their quickness, efficiency, skillfulness all these skills are mind blowing! Similarly having this delightful approach can help people in developing uniqueness or something niche! Another approach can be how every living or non-living being can be refurbished and rejuvenated for the sake of giving it a meaning and it is possible, believe me! We are taking unnecessary authority to wrongly assume certain things but not authenticating our life with special attitude which can be given a thought of! People should start considering a bigger canvas for their own life first by forgetting the material means of living life and this will eventually give the right outcome.

5. Are you a passionate actor(heroism) of your own life who wants to shape up things out of intricacies with refined approach?- For this.... immediate question can be- Are you a born human being who has sensitivity and passion to lead life? I have seen many normal life heroes who deal with things in a space fabulously as small as a narrow public toilet in the train or flight! I am sorry to mention this but it is a reality! Our expectations make us stereotype human beings in life but in this situation we do not take into account the potential capacity of our own where brain and mind both come in the picture! There are many hardworking people who have come in the city like Mumbai in India where by having an ordinary livelihood they keep higher dreams and they do achieve it because they want to become real life heroes for themselves and others!And actually the kind of helping attitude they have...I can not see the same in a category of middle class...to higher middle or  to even richest one! A real time passionate actor only can do this  and for that matter there is no need to be in Bollywood or such industry!

All the above aspects will nurture one's experiential approach with a matured state of mind and even life as an art will be realized phenomenally well in such cases. And not to forget; this way leadership fundamental will start becoming stronger as life makes you an artist irrespective of any modeled art!

So Experiential Artistic Leadership will give us self contentment in terms of living life as a leader and this will in return will solidify the affinity towards the whole society and the life as a meaningful concept! So friends, professionals, well wishers can we start building this one metaphoric but much seasoned practical concept of leadership which is called as EXPERIENTIAL ARTISTIC LEADERSHIP?

Let us do it now, life is short and current phase is making us realize a lot and this is the core period to enhance our intensity to be in the position of Experiential Artistic Leadership!

Have a great experiential journey ahead and an artistic salute to all!

Your Well wisher and Experiential Artistic Leader-
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Affiliated Member of CCA, Canada
Executive Leadership Coach at Marshall Goldsmith SCC
M.com and Musician
www.soulomkar.co.in
soulomkar@gmail.com





Friday 17 April 2020

Are we becoming Selfish, Self Sufficient or Selfless in this critical period of Lockdown?

Dear All,   

Greetings!

Are we experiencing words like Slack, Sluggishness, Scarcity, Slow down, Sickness/Slashing or such similar words in the period of lock down as far as professional era is concerned? Must be....right?

Had it been the other way round where Salvaging, Saving, Smoothing, Soaring, Scaling, Starring or such similar words giving us motivation, things would have been different!!!

However factual things are the things which we have to accept at any cost and the same way we have accepted the present situation courageously and I salute to all for the same!

But there is a hue and cry about "Acceptance" since it is a crucial word to perceive properly! And hence raising a question like Are we becoming Selfish, Self sufficient or Selfless in this phase? ; makes lot of sense, right? It may not be digested properly but contemplating this question and foreseeing events taking place in near future can be a challenge to accept!

Putting this question with three perspectives-
1. Astrologically it has some impact. Here astrology can be anything related to such similar theories where we all have a taste in such elements or we tend to believe them where it can be reiki, shamanism, pranic healing, yoga/meditation, astrology having prophetic means, tarot card reading, regression theory, vibrations theory etc.

2. Developing our own analogy based upon our own experiential journey and relevant consequences. Here it can be practical, emotional or combination of both!

3. Looking at it logically the way people have kept on looking at various aspects of life moments and surroundings!


If you would ask me then looking at the present situation- the ratio out of 100% must be like this-

Selfish- 70%
Self Sufficient- 25%
Selfless- 5%

This is because, we all love our own existence more than anything else in the first instance which is not wrong because actually looking at everyone's life there can not be something wrong or right since empirical moments can not come by giving due intimation! :-)

However, there is another side to look at it- Do we need admiration/popularity/fame? Do we need to gain respect? Do we need to do it for our own happiness/satisfaction?

There can be such similar or completely different perceptions which I don't deny but then somewhere down the line we need to restrict our thinking, right?because otherwise decision making process becomes complex!

This is like, how Mukesh Ambani must be thinking about himself a lot when his name has been dropped from the list of Forbes after the lock down period started or Ratan Tata asking himself, by investing 500 crores in this critical stage,I  have gained respect by doing this or not or any cricketer  like Virat Kohli or bollywood actor like Akshay Kumar considering him self sufficient and then donating for the present critical phase without expecting anything!!!!???? Exclamation and Question both are haunting us, right?

So what will be the right thing to arrive at some conclusion when these three words are coming in the picture-  Selfish- Self Sufficient- Selfless-

Just as a food for thought- Is it valid or is it prudent to change the ratio to-

Selfish- 35%
Self Sufficient- 35%
Selfless- 30% (Why 5% can not be added here because we need to accommodate the same in 100% and Selfless is the most expensive word to perceive where we can give grace percentage like may be 5% more which can be precious! :-) We can not!


Why I am saying this? Because

Before concluding this can make sense to you-

Selfish- The lock down or such situation always gives a feeling to a mediocre in the first place and i.e. How can I Survive myself well?

Self Sufficient- Am I really becoming self sufficient where such situations will never affect my life process at any point in any circumstances?

Selfless- Can I become Selfless where my mindfulness will remain intact at any point since it has a direct and rapid connection with my Karma or may be in forthcoming event of my life it will reflect?

But ideally or looking at present Kali Yuga or World's scenario, there can be five aspects which we can relate to all three above words and then can arrive at concrete conclusion-

1. What is my background and how have I grown up since my childhood where retrospectively few aspects can make a difference?
2. What is my personal intensity to achieve things and my capacity to sustain with my abilities where passion can pop up?
3. How is my approach to look at external things of the world around and internal things of the inner core i.e. mindfulness which is my own world?
4. Am I looking for Satisfaction more or pleasures more where these two things will decide the destiny of my life which is called as life style to put?
5. How concerned I am to relate my life with surroundings where is my purpose of life clear? Is my aim transparent? Is my way of life and to look at life appropriate ultimately where which human values make sense and how relationships make an importance to me and my life on the whole?

I am sure the above questions categorized in five sub sections can surely clarify your vision with respect to these three words and they are Selfish, Self Sufficient and Selfless!!!!

We all know that we decide the destiny or it is destined or destiny is a blend of our own Karma and Science or based upon some spiritual theory, let it be....there is no fixed opinion in this regard as billions of people have billions of reasons and opinions!

So at the outset, Who can change the world, species or humans or spiritual gurus or scientists or nature or.......?

The Comedian seeking the role of Hitler and performing it to the best!
The Main actor taking the position of a side hero whose shot is not for more than a minute but still feels contented!
The person performing any role that comes to his or her way and still without any frustration feels happy and non expectation is a process at every step!
 
After conjuring or while conjuring- the question can be framed up in such manner-

Am I getting disassociated with the world where the words like Selfish, Self Sufficient and Selfless get seen from different mirrors or same mirror or somebody else's mirror where ultimately experiential journey finds quality more than anything else????

Let us define the form!

Good Luck and Stay safe & Healthy All Master Minds!

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach &
Master Spirit Life Coach at
CCA, Canada Member
Executive Leadership Coach at
Marshall Goldsmith Stakeholders Centered Coaching
www.soulomkar.co.in
Musician- Singer, Composer, Poet
M.com