Communication and its effectiveness irrespective of any language where five aspects play an integral role!!!!

Hello All,

Communication, this process was born when we were born on this earth or before we were born…the process was in existence where the nature was very inquisitive in communicating with different beings and we as human beings….was the best ever communication channel because of which this process got glorified a lot by many as the revolution kept on happening.

Right now, by writing an article on this I am also in a way adopting some communication method to reach to you all and I am sure that once it will reach to you in one of the finest ways…then my journey of writing this article will flourish more and more.

In this article I thought it prudent to put such aspects in front of you which actually make the process very healthy and quite natural more than anything else. I always imagine that many spiritualists or Godly people like Jesus Christ, Lord Shrikrishna and such other personalities were used to have a very effective communication with all due to which they could win over millions of people and they are still remembered.

There used to have no difference between personal and professional communication to that extent or if it is there then particularly it has not been mentioned anywhere with peculiar enunciation. However our mindful brain can definitely extend the imagination to the highest possible extent to know how the communication could have been and how it should be now!

Charlie Chaplin used to communicate with people through his expressions, body language and overall actions because of which he used to make us laugh and that was the most crucial act of him ever where it can be one of the model examples of effective communication. Similarly platform may change but effectiveness always depends upon the utilization of one’s personal potential strengths with respect to the situation & its response.

After thinking a lot and working with many people till date, I could analyze that the important five aspects which I am enumerating here can be useful in our professional area wherever we are working irrespective of the language.

FIVE ASPECTS OF EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION

1.      Honesty and Integrity paves the way for- There is always a hue and cry in organizations with respect to the honesty of the person or even what we call it as Integrity. Because of this, I have seen that the communication, too has the impact with a greater intensity. It is said that your mind & its impression cannot be hidden because it reflects what you are doing and who you are as a person and that is exactly proportional to your way of communication in the society or organizations wherever you work. Honesty has to be naturally existing within the person and if it is not there then it may lead us to hamper the process of communication. Many barriers remain as it is in our mindful personality and it shows when we communicate. Many times, just due to sheer hiding of a fact disturbs our communication process and then everything starts going wrong where the stage comes and we see ourselves getting stuck with some problematic situation. Instead clear and honest way of communication may create problems sometimes but then finding solutions on the same becomes more easier in such scenarios because our validity with respect to our integrity increases our face value.

2.      Expressional Power especially our smile- Of late, I have observed that the more powerful our expressions are, more effective the conversation will be because of our expressive presence. Many times, people understand what somebody wants to say just by mere but fabulous expressions. If you are honest then your expressions do not hide what you want to say….and it is quite natural phenomena but now a days we are able to see how fabricated expressions we have on the face while interacting with someone!!!! Our attitude changes our expressions and that power becomes pale act all of a sudden due to some egoistic approach getting portrayed. Hence 0.01% of expressional change can be observed if we are perfectly on the track with respect to the communication! Smile also creates positive vibes in the atmosphere and hence fabricated smile can be made out or even true smiles can be judged and then accordingly people many times choose communication channels to adopt for!  You can imagine that you are in the office and just have entered the ambience where one of your colleagues come in front of you who is jealous of your position and then he deliberately gives you a smile which does not have that expected zeal and then you proclaim, “Early in the morning…I had to confront someone who hates me and his/her smile has passed on some bad energy…!” It triggers unnecessary power towards you and then you know what happens….! J Hence Expressional power makes a difference!

3.      Convincing approach towards life- When we hover around the professional world, it does not restrict us to that because we all carry unwarranted burden of our personal life with us and then it affects our communication in professional atmosphere. We all are not the exception to this, right? Due to this sheer fact, one should start realizing that if we are convinced with why we are living on this earth then….everything will change positively! Many times I say that we must realize our own value of life in the first place because then there will be some spice or essence to live the life diligently! Communication is an act where our mindful brain always responds or reacts but while doing that our other thoughts in subconscious make the process smooth or hard as per the state of our mindful brain. So be convinced with your own life first and then get into your professional world because the frame of mind which you will carry that time will have lot of hold on every action of yours and so is the case in communication!

4.      Passionate Conversational  Habit- This is the most effective way to adopt but at the same time the most crucial ever because passion is something which has to be found out from within….and for the person it takes many times the whole of his/her life to reveal that passionate quality! I may be exaggerating but it is a fact that passion solves many problems of our personality and it is a precious tool for communication. Communication is a process where there has to be an authenticity from the origin till the destination! To get habituated with passionate conversation, we will require to work on ourselves a lot because the same thing is going to decide our way of communication thereafter!  It is true that we all are not active communicators but many times passiveness is liked by many. However think of the same scenario and analyze if you have benefited out of this passive communication….!!! You may have benefited because being a listener changes the perspective at times but when we talk about communication as a process…it takes a toll to arrive at a positive conclusion of this process. Many great legendary speakers have this passionate conversational habit which has taken a birth from their original quality of doing something passionate in life and this has to be learnt from these people for sure.

Keeping human aspect alive- I always remember respected  Ratan Tata for his human aspect which he always kept alive and hence today also when I think of Tata group…I think of only Ratan Tata and likewise there are many people for whom he is an inspiration in the industrial world. The reason is simple and it is; he was a great human being although he owns such a large empire like a monarch! I have seen that wherever there is a lack of human aspect, things become pernicious and the days comes where appeasement becomes impossible to have during that situation. Why is it so? Because of lagging behind with human element where at every stage of your communication with someone, it really helps us a lot! So keeping human aspect alive; is like carrying natural legacy ahead with a rational approach in life. This principle is very applicable in one’s professional life as well. I have observed the management philosopher Marshall Goldsmith when he speaks…he has a human aspect and I have also experienced his way of taking notes where I had received one email from him acknowledging my thoughts and song which I had sent it across. I was not really expecting that he will write back to me but when I received his email, I was overwhelmed with his kind hearted approach. Hence to keep communication healthy this last but very important aspect should not be forgotten and i.e. human aspect liveliness…! It changes the periphery of one’s communication process and angle everywhere.

So now we all should find ourselves perfect in our positions to follow these aspects. I still learn a lot by adhering to all the above aspects and it gives fantastic result…! I am the one who has lot of trust in this because right now I am communicating with all of you with only one feeling in mind and i.e. I want to be a good communicator in days to come and because of you all, I can do that! Hats off to you all! Enjoy your daily communication! Write to me as well at amit@soulomkar.com

Thank you! 

Amit Deokule

Blissful Joy

Amit Deokule

Life Balance Coach

Master Spirit Life Coach

Global Member of CCA, Canada

www.soulomkar.com

www.your24hcoach.com

Professional Musician

  

Practising Employability skills and five aspects to keep the same intact

Hi Friends,

Greetings!

Market demands keep on changing from time to time and it reflects on the life of every person who is capable of being employed. Even an entrepreneur needs skills which are employable because ultimately we all work for growth and that is the ultimate perspective.

Have you ever faced a scenario where because of lack of employability skills you get failed at the time of interview?
Have you ever faced some kind of a sudden set back in your life even after having lot of talent and technical skills?
Have you ever got stuck with your own potentials where how to use your skills in the organisation will be a problem for you?

All the above questions depict that one needs to focus on his or her employability skills more consistently!

We all can have choices in choosing the career but we can not have optional tools for enhancing our employability skills.

Practising these skills ; is like a habit and it should become our habit. Employability skills is a deployment of person for some position in the organisation where he or she will exhibit all required skills apart from his/her technical knowledge which will help him or her in sustaining in the organisation with excellent record.

Enhancing employability skill is like overhauling the approach from time to time where conflicts, confusion, critical conditions will be avoided while dealing with people. Keeping Employability skills intact helps organisation to keep the growth trajectory always on a progressive mode. So it is said that while going for an interview, the person should emphasise on what organisation will derive after placing him or her and how it will be benefited!!! Because this confidence extension will help people in employing them in the first place!

Five aspects keeping the skills intact-

1. To keep abreast of the market trend to employ people
2. To upgrade communication and leadership skills from time to time
3. To restore the capacity to change positively while working in the organisation
4. To be a great team member in a team building process
5. To keep your emotional intelligence on a high mode always

1. To keep abreast of the market trend to employ people - Continuous reading of various business magazines or even supplement of newspapers where industry occurrences and related news get published ; should be taken a note of. Talking to various people, attending seminars giving lot of knowledge about the industrial trends should be done after specific time intervals. This way or even reading out/surfing through various networking channels keep giving you updated knowledge about the market and this should be done at regular interval by people who want phenomenal growth in their career.

2. To upgrade communication and leadership skills from time to time- This is the most crucial area which is ignored many times by employees of the organisation. For the said reason, participating in various activities, taking initiative always make people a good communicator imbibing good leadership qualities. The leader is a title and the leadership is a responsibility...and this should not be forgotten by the people who want to make themselves employable.

3. To restore the capacity to change positively while working in the organisation- Change is the most crucial area to get adapted to and positive change is more challenging to make into practice. The famous management philosopher Peter Drucker has stated somewhere that change has to be there but somebody who will think to go beyond change will create something unique in this world. Hence change is indispensable and to make it a habit, it requires courage. Employability skills can be kept intact by adhering to the change most graciously!

4. To be a great team member in a tea building process- It is said that not a single team is perfect with 100% accuracy but if someone can learn to be a great team member while building processes for a team, it will give judicious results to the person who is working  as a team member. Many times, while working in a team conflicts get created to a larger level in a team and that makes person less employable in the industrial scenario because one can not avoid working in a team. To become  a good team member, one needs to have tenacity to drive himself/herself properly in the organisation and if it works then growth path will be much easier.

5. To keep your emotional intelligence (E.I.) on a high mode always- Now a days dealing with people has become very tough because of the stressful condition one hovers around. Because of the said reason, one will require to work on his/her emotional value a lot. Being an emotional person and being emotionally intelligent makes a lot difference. Hence working on E.I. benefits lot of people because people are greater assets or they are like fixed but at the same time movable assets of the organisation where if the zeal will be kept alive among people to work consistently on a high mode, then things will become easier to handle with in organisations. Predominantly if we will focus on increasing empathy, then we will be able to keep people's temperament balanced and this way we will be able to justify ourselves in conditional environment.


The above are very essential point to keep our employability skills intact. Because till the time perpetual succession is going to be there in organisations, people as an employable resource will never die because we as humans have some "X" factor in our personality for sure but keeping that factor alive in organisations takes a toll and to avoid that toll one will always need to practice skills which are employable skills and keeping them intact by following the above five aspects will surely help people in upgrading themselves as a thorough professional!

Be Employable be a professional!

Warm Regards,
Amit
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
www.soulomkar.com
www,your24hcoach.com
Professional Musician

Five ways to keep human values intact

Hi Friends,

Greetings!

Human Values are becoming the centre of focus in the current world of affairs and it is because of stressful conditions people are hovering around. Actually there is nothing to talk about human values because we are far superior than animals but there is everything to talk about it because of the hype which has been observed in the society now a days because of many factors including professionally competitive stress everyone has!

Value can be measured by putting some equivalent tool for the same but human...this word has infinite parameters where fixing it in a rigid structure is more than crucial but then looking at its severity one will need to maintain certain values with grace in this comparative world.

According to me Human Value and its extension is as follows-

HUMAN- Harmonised Uniqueness Managing Aspiring Nomenclatures

VALUE- Valour Authenticity Lucrative Ubiquitous Enduring/Evolving

Every letter in Value and its meaning as per my conviction is-

Valour - Emotional intelligence. One needs that brave approach to use E.Q. at every step.
Authenticity- One's identity is very important in this competitive world.
Lucrative- Gaining Social Momentum
Ubiquitous- Creating one's existence in such a way where it will be a known entity
Enduring/Evolving- Continuously impacting by virtues/ establishing good impressions and memories to cherish where brand as an entity will be recognised.

To keep up with the above aspects wherever we go we can have following five tools to keep human values intact-

1. Gratitude Expression- It is important to express gratitude wherever we go because you never know how the relations will turn out to be professionally or personally in life! Whomsoever we will meet in life in any part of the globe, it is necessary to be respectful because people observe people and this process will never end up.

2. Self motivation and motivating others- It is vital to have self motivation because without that one can not remain energetic in life and his or her vision will not get shaped up the way it is expected. Secondly motivating others will surely give satisfaction to the people because they will be remembered due to the quality of motivating somebody for their potentials or qualities or anything which is called as good in somebody! It is imperative to have this activity constantly getting progressive in life for the welfare of the society and do not forget we are humans and a part of the same society irrespective of in which part of the world we roam around.

3. Extend help whenever there is an opportunity where your exact potentials will be utilised- We all have some unique qualities and the man is known by those qualities only. Albert Einstein was not a good looking person but his heart and brain was so beautiful that his quotes are still cherished by everyone. It is said that every moment is an opportunity and if we grab some of the opportunities to help people by some or other way by utilising our potential qualities...universal energy will surely trigger your enthusiasm to become a noble personality in the world.  In professional or personal life of everyone, there is a certain opportunity of similar kind but we tend to ignore many times as naturally everyone is selfish but to keep the human value intact this act will change the periphery of the humanity as a concept.

4. Empathy- This aspect is indirectly related to human values but in professional world when everyone is stressed, apparently empathetic nature is going to benefit several groups and the same way personal life will also have its sure positive reflections. This in turn will keep humanity alive because people will realise that identifying someone's mindfulness at particular time was as important as identifying the indication of Tsunami or storm or flood or such calamities which ruin the nature. The same is the case with human being. Empathy is playing a greater role and it will be...in coming days...because it has become a need for the person who goes through a critical stage of life. Jesus Christ or even Lord Shrikrishna had this empathetic elegance in their personality and due to that they were Godly images and idols of many!

5. Be a part of somebody's happy feeling and share happiness from within to celebrate- Ultimately why we live and why we survive...are the two contradictory but at the same time equally essential questions of life and the answer is to attain the state of happiness/ecstasy which is not in any material thing. And hence sharing somebody's happiness increases the gravity of the same by millions and it should be at every stage of life when we meet people from variety of religions. Eventually one will surely realise that everyone survives for happiness and human value is the only religion which will be secured through happiness...and the greatness of this concept. One should celebrate every moment and celebrating happiness is like forgetting all negative points and only focusing on qualities of some person due to which he or she becomes the ideal for his or her own life. All spiritual doctrines ultimately speak about happiness where nothing should bother us and not even this externally eclipsed world full of illusions.


HUMAN VALUES now a days need lot of overhauling and repairing because of over expectations, unnecessary desires, egoism, attitudinal problems and I think the above are the ways and means to escape from all sheer barriers of one's complex mind where even he or she will get rid of all those perplexed situations of life which make life miserable. CELEBRATE HUMANITY.....GIVE VALUE TO IT BY ABOVE ASPECTS MENTIONED AND SALUTE TO HUMAN BECAUSE VALUE HAD BEEN GIVEN TO THE PERSON AFTER HE WAS TERMED AS HUMAN and HE OR SHE WAS BORN ON THIS EARTH!

Blessed Self!

Regards,
Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
www.soulomkar.com
Global member of CCA, Canada.

Human Values, a far fetched phenomena?

Hi All,

Greetings!

For last five and half years, I have been working as a life coach and it is been a wonderful journey till now. I met variety of people and even they have enriched me so far as it is a continuous learning.

After meeting variety of people till date, I am of the opinion that Human value is still a far fetched phenomena! People will surely point out fingers at me but when somebody talks about human value one has to be equal, transparent and open to respond!

If we talk about the human from its origin then lot of things come in the picture where various religions, castes, creeds and communities are there in a diverse country like India. But when we talk about human value...all these concepts vanish and only one religion remains and i.e. Human as universal! 

Now the above is the ideal way of talking about human and its value but looking at the present scenario and the approach of people...human value and its configuration will change totally!

After practising human values for so many years and births...people carry fabricated smile, show attitude due to their intelligence, keep ego.....why???

There are lot of institutions for transforming people but what does transformation mean  and when does it occur? People get trained and the impact remains for a while and after which the normal behaviour gets depicted with many ifs and buts, what is the use then? 

When we attach the word Universal to something...it changes the perspective because the whole human community comes within the periphery of the universal and it is a truth...but are we accommodating every being??? remains in the kitty. People portray themselves to be humans and measure value of others but not of themselves...but still can work on human values! No wonder....many Indians say that we live in a very simple community which accepts both the sides of the story where even negatives are allowed in that community! However if values are universal then uniqueness and versatility in human value has to be expected and exactly we lack in that .

Fortunately the person in front can recognise the authenticity of one's humanness and hence working on such a difficult terminology in reality and which it is like somebody who does not know about value and he or she is taking benefit of doubt for this concept; is a thinkable issue. IF we talk about anything universal then it has to be perfect and it has to be authentic truth. Human is a truth....human has capability to be a perfectionist but values differ and truth keeps on fluctuating from time to time...as truth as a concept is the one IMPERVIOUS but truth as concept of digestion is difficult to pursue and therefore...there are conflicts....differences....scenarios like not tuning with each other ......where while talking about universal people still drop many people out of this universality! How can it be?

The real meaning according to me for human value is-

HUMAN- Harmonised Uniqueness Managing Aspiring Nomenclatures

VALUE- Valour Authenticity Lucrative Ubiquitous Enduring/Evolving

Extensions of Words in Value-

Valour- Emotional Intelligence

Authenticity- Identity with integrity

Lucrative- Gaining Social Momentum with pride

Ubiquitous- Natural Truth

Enduring/Evolving- Continuously impactful /leaving good memories OR Proving to be a great entity

The above meaningful extension may be difficult to perceive but human value as a concept is crucial to execute and hence we need to understand the above meaning as well.

In Vedas it is said that all beings on this earth are our friends but ironically have we perceived this concept fully if we want to spread a word of universal human values? If we do not like someone’s approach we dislike him or her by some way or other and it happens from the people who are working on human values, then what should we call them as???

Swami Vivekananda preached character building techniques as means of education and there itself value education was embedded in the minds of people quite well but as the time passed by and revolution started happening, human as a being started evolving as something on the basis of externally eclipsed things more than anything else and it is said practically that audio-visuals put severe impact on somebody and that deteriorates the conditions of mindfulness many times. In the community of animals no one will ask each other…where are our values on the basis of which we live our life but in the community of humans…something called as human value got established just by mere reflections of variety of people and their ‘n’ number of opinions on severally infinite perspectives. Otherwise human value as a concept should not arise but because of two sides of the coin this concept got evolved. In this kali yuga everyone is hovering around the competitive world and this competitiveness has affected human minds where not a single one is the exception. People want to gain popularity by working on some ethical concepts and want to make the terminologies like human value famous for the sake of making it so! This is a living fact and one will not accept but examples of Godly images like Saint Dnyaneshwar/Tukaram, Jesus Christ, Lord Shrikrishna are rare to find because of the comparison which is going on among people as to who will become a great human being???? Hence it will be crucial game in coming days to prove the humanity as a concept. Humanity is as natural as the nature and hence there is nothing to prove but all will require to activate their hidden humanly expressions which are already there within. Many people talk about compassion, love…etc. with full study but now only study is not sufficient and its implementation is more than precious because the one who studies these concept can take a revenge of somebody now a days or show lot of attitude by mere presentations of compassion and love!

Hence at the outset winning over human as a value is not that easy and it might take births because even those who are working on human values…God is looking at you…do not forget that and simply opting for this way will not pave the way for maximisation of good deeds! Remember, Value was not born before human but when human was born…there is something called as value took the place to outshine the human and hence always value will be supportive to the word human but this support will have to be extremely sacred and holistic! So to remove the feeling of “A Far Fetched” from the human value…one will require to go beyond his or her capacity to prove that Human value is memorable and it is cherishing with so much of immortality which does not come just by saying that we work on human values but by becoming a living model example of the current time!

Salute to all humans and all the best wishes for humans who will create good values for this whole community of humans!!!!

Regards, Amit

Life Balance Coach

Master Spirit Life Coach

www.soulomkar.com

www.your24hcoach.com

Global member of CCA, Canada 

Music is an universal healing strategy which changes human positively!

Hello All,

Greetings!

Hope you are doing fine! 

Twenty years back when I was unaware of the fact that in future what I shall be getting through music would be phenomenal and absolutely something called as "incredibly awakening", today I am really happy to be a musician and feel like going back to those days when I was in a premature stage of "Being Musician"! Because that journey had enlightened all those moments when I was experiencing many situations musically!

We all know one famous poem "Twinkle Twinkle Little Stars, How I wonder what you are! Up above the world so high, like a diamond in the sky !" 

Today I realise strongly that how important such poems were because music enriches everyone on this earth irrespective of being a qualitative musician every time!

If we go by the word "MUSIC" then I have revealed the same as 

Moments of miracle

Ubiquitous uniqueness

Serving the whole humanity

Igniting all inactive minds

Cherishing every life moment by way of character building!!!!

Many legendary artists/dignitaries say that Music is such an activity which can't be used for others in the first place but it is experienced for our own self because it awakens someone's mindfulness to such a level where passionate change in one's personality is possible with full positive approach.

Technology will have an expiry date even in today's innovative world but Music will always emerge as the best tool to revive and rejuvenate deteriorated conditions! 

Through my experiences in music as a live stage performer or even recording artist being a singer, composer and poet, I have seen drastic changes in people when people say that by listening to particular creation, we got motivated a lot and could change our perspective.  

Music acts like a transformer in someone's life if we talk about real transformation! Because in my formative years, I used to look at music as the best remedy for passing the time and make fun but gradually as the days passed by; music started getting into the roots and nerves of my body, heart, soul and mind! It is said that in the outside world, many times one's visuals act as a player of emotional gambling where all sides of one's natural behaviour get depicted which includes negative aspect as well. But Music has strength to catch only positive moments more appropriately where even people with bad habits become positive thinkers where people around them can analyse that the situation has made them so and in reality they are not like that. 

In our spiritual doctrines as well there are many references where it is found that music is truly a cosmic phenomena where everything is unconditional! I have also observed during my journey where many times people get close to me just because of music but not because of my approach towards life, choices in career, habits etc. where transiently one can experience that all energy centers get triggered during those moments when music is the core focus and we only talk about music and then allied discussions go in  the flow very smoothly where kind and gentle atmosphere gets created.

The following is the experience which I have had many times while listening to or working on music in my life and following statement is quite evident to what I have experienced-  Music is the only activity which can create any damn environment whenever you are alone and you want to be with yourself. It is like every relation with yourself at no cost! Imagination plays a role to an extent where your visuals and inner voice melodiously and meditatively blend together when you become musical! 

Categorically, musical frame of mind is equivalent to enhancing the human value in our life. When a child takes birth on this earth, it is said that his/her first moment of crying resonates the frequencies of OMKAR (A U M)  which is the universal truth and OM is having prime importance in the field of music because it is the starting point in music or of the sound precisely. If it is so then it is not wrong to claim that every mindful person has one musical string which should get activated in life and once it is activated then only flower will blossom irrespective of its withering state which is as natural as the nature. 

I made it a practice during my learning journey and still practice to feel in every part of the body when I sing , compose or write or even listen to different musical creations and it works. I always say that even if somebody will be lost in the jungle and there will not be any remedy to get escaped for a while, music will resolve the fear in mind for the time being to pass the time till the moment of escape. :-) It may be an exaggerated response to quote my experience but music releases blockages in our perception for sure. It brings together all natural smiling faces or make fabricated smiles; a naturally progressive smiles. It may be a gradual process but one day will come when music from within will surely have its own symphony getting played at every step of human being because value is not the measurement when we talk about human value but it is the progressive amalgamation of positive aspects getting consolidated together and adding music as an energy into it makes the concept very universal where human being's natural versatility will get maintained in a unique manner.

Ultimately there is a lot to write about music being an artist and a life coach since Music has enriched me and has been continuing to teach me many hidden aspects of life where I am sure that it only cultivates all good aspects and one has only one responsibility in this case and it is just to maintain the crescendo of being mindfully musical as even being a listener also paves the way for bountiful growth in life. 

A musical salute to all! Right now while wrapping up, I am listening to the strings of piano, violin and acoustic guitar together which has actually generated all positivity to write about music as an universal healing and it is so...just be with it!!! I am connected with you all!!! Thank you!

Regards,

Amit Deokule

Life Balance Coach

Master Spirit Life Coach

www.soulomkar.com

Global Member of CCA, Canada

Member of www.your24hcoach.com

SELF MOTIVATION- AN EASY TOOL TO USE AND MOST ESSENTIAL TO SURVIVE IN TODAY’S WORLD!

SELF MOTIVATION- AN EASY TOOL TO USE AND MOST ESSENTIAL TO SURVIVE IN TODAY’S WORLD!

WHY SELF MOTIVATION IS VITAL???

      

Due to fierce competition and large amount of comparison because of immense talent pool which is accessible in the global world, it is highly imperative to have our SELF MOTIVATION intact now a days to survive!!!!

Without having any support, how we can derive self motivation; is a matter of concern. Because many times when I deliver my coaching sessions, people ask me, “Sir, how should we derive self motivation as it is harder process to perceive?” But my answer is always, “Yes my friends it is very easy to do that!”

If  we know our priorities of life with respect to our dreams/aims we have set; then possibilities of one getting motivated on  his/her own;  will be greater. Secondly if we are determined irrespective of any hindrances that we may confront, we will remain focused which in turn will support our motivational energy which should not get lost at any point of time. In the word Motivation we can find out one or two important words which have direct inclination as to how motivation can be self driven!!! First is Motive and second is Move according to me where continuous positive movement towards our motive will have automated self motivation!

We have tremendous influential elements  in the outside world which de-motivates us very often or even people around us many times discourages us reacting in such a fashion where our efficiency will get decreased. But then keeping in mind that we humans have an ability to control and decontrol our vision the way we want because of strong brainful and mindful abilities, self motivation can be easy to achieve. Motivation plays a part of water in growing the seed of any plant! Motivation is in our conviction i.e. in our approach. It means everyone has different taste and vision in appreciating something and similarly imagining that every situation in our life is a design and we are trying to make it superior by our own conviction because in this imagination our motivation is hidden and then any exterior incident will not bother us and will not override our abilities.

TOOLS WHICH ARE RESOURCEFUL FOR SELF MOTIVATION-

1.       PAINT YOUR PICTURE OF EVERY MOMENT POSITIVELY- Many times…whenever any situation crops up, we get scared and without giving a thought we react and also get depressed. Instead, if we will paint a picture of that particular situation by imagining that we are the part of the situation and handling the same diligently without any fear, it will be courageous.  At the same time, one should have a painted picture of every short term goal he or she has set for himself/herself because it helps a lot to remain energetic irrespective of problems.  When I thought of becoming a life coach, I painted a picture of what I shall be five years down the line and how people would think of me everyday being a life coach or even am I getting something really extraordinary in life due to which my motivation will remain forever? These questions helped me a lot because I painted a unique picture and have been painting almost every day since the day I started working as a life coach.

2.       USE POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS CONSTANTLY ON EVERY DAY – Using affirmations like, “ I am healthy, I am happy!” and I started using this affirmation at the time of doing exercise in the morning and it started making my day more and more beautiful just because of this simple positive affirmation in life! Start jumping little bit…then start clapping and then start uttering these words and see the difference it will have in your life! The way we get habituated to something by practicing various things as per our own likes or even the way we have our breakfast every day or even sleep every day or even the bath, why can’t we get habituated with few positive affirmations like stated above? Yes, we can for sure!!!!! Before going to the bed in the night or  before getting off from the bed on every sunny morning, if we will start chanting few affirmations as if it is our prayer…it will surely help you in maintaining your motivation intact. Self motivation works like as if the machine needs overhauling after certain period…the man will need to be motivated at every step and hence overhauling will have to be done every day instead of making it a practice after every interval. Isn’t it interesting??? I also started chanting “AUM” every day and it worked fabulously for keeping my enthusiasm intact.

3.       LISTEN TO SOME HEALING MUSIC OR GET ASSOCIATED WITH ALMOST EVERY FORM OF MUSIC- I am a professional musician and after having a journey of almost 20 years, when I kept of listening to good music…I realized one day that barring all obstructions in life, I can surely keep my motivation blossoming and the healing gimmick was nothing but listening to pure music which you love from the bottom of your heart. For e.g. When I am depressed, I listen to the tune of piano or group violin or strings  etc. and it activates my emotional intelligence in such a manner that I reveal some precious thing about myself and it works as a self motivation. Likewise, if people will listen to the healing music which they appreciate as per their taste, it will surely inspire them.  So be a good listener of GENUINE MUSIC!!!!

4.       DO SOME BENEVOLENT ACTIVITY AS A PART OF YOUR NORMAL SCHEDULE- Social aspect is really essential in the current world of affairs and CSR (Corporate Social Responsibility) is a buzz word now a days in the industrial world but then think as if you on your won has some terrific benevolence on the basis of which you plan to have some social activity as a part of your normal schedule. Try and find out such social organizations where you can be a part of the same easily without having any monetary investment and help the people selflessly where it is a self motivation within itself. Over a period of time, you will realize that you have lot of social homes with whom you have got associated and you feel really homely there because of pure sharing & giving  approach!

5.       BE CREATIVE IN YOUR OWN AREA OF POTENTIAL- The worst part which I have observed in people through my journey of a life coaching is; when people can not tap their true potentials and remain de-motivated & stressful thereto!  In such a situation I really feel like helping them in revealing their own circle of abilities which has a greater radius and diameter…! And when I see that zeal on their faces, I can make out that because of some unconditional desire to help people in making them find their own potentials, the world around me has changed totally where only glorious feeling of achieving something persists in your mind and moreover if you will see people becoming very creative in their own potential field then sky is the limit. Writing a letter to your own many times is a creative way of utilizing time and likewise there will be such numerous ways to adopt where your self motivation will remain intact! Isn’t it exciting? Yes very much…! Because I tried one exercise one day…! One day there was little more time for me to go inside the cabin of one senior person for the meeting and then his secretary asked me to wait in the reception. I waited over there and then all of a sudden thought came in mind…that what kind of thinking people carry when they come and go like this in various organizations….and it goes in multiples…how such scenario affects or effects. Just by sitting over there,  I wrote a poem on those people who come and go like me in various organizations…and to my surprise it gave me a great motivation to lead life enormously in an emphatic way!!!

So  friends, above five ways can surely keep you motivated because I could think of one line of famous management philosopher Robin Sharma, who  says “BE A ROCKSTAR LIKE A POET” Because poet has his own world of creative aspects and he feels out of this world when he writes a poem and it is an expression of ROCKSTAR, right? Similarly you can have your own ROCKSTAR feeling in your life to keep your motivation rejoicing!!!

THANK YOU

AMIT DEOKULE

LIFE BALANCE COACH

MASTER SPIRIT LIFE COACH

HRs are selfishers or givers?

Hello All,

Greetings!

HR is the most crucial department I have ever seen in any organization because human being as an asset has full control getting extended from HR where it gives real strength to the people to work more efficiently because the emotional intelligence gets depicted by HR people first due to which they get tremendous courage.

There are different streams of degrees available in HR stream where MBA with HR, PGDBM with HR, MPM, Management degree from foreign etc... are available where even people from IIM can be seen working on a higher post in HR.

HR by the terminology & concept is very effective but how far HR by the concept of humanly element is getting implemented??? The question seems to be arrogant but it makes sense because nurturing of HRs may not be getting done with a point of view where humanly aspect gets developed while someone is getting educated in that stream! With due respect to all HRs, my observation has a different kind of expression and i.e. HRs are selfishers rather than givers! I have a great respect for this department and if I would not have been in finance department when I was working in service sector, I would have gone for HR. I used to see that many colleagues of mine used to say that trainings on soft skills do not suffice and it is a wastage of time....and then I used to question myself that if such a scenario is there...how long the compassionate attitude will remain alive among people if they do not want soft skill enhancement in their personality as a predominant factor of every place wherever they will work???

When I started working as a Life Balance Coach, I found that I am happened meet many HR people who just want to gather information from me but they were least interested in giving something....and giver's gain policy works excellently in business which is being said by the popular author and inventor of networking, Dr. Ivan Misner...! Then giver's gain can not be existing in organizations where somebody works as an employee??? We encourage all employees to work like entrepreneurs and then HRs as an employees are at times behave like rulers where giving attitude in the form of motivation is also lost at their end!

We can admit that HR people have targets and so is the case with every human being on this earth but then why that selfish approach is being seen in them at times....! Everybody is working to earn but then people being  in HR have some x factor to utilize for the benefit of the employees??? OR it is the responsibility of every being...because then why HR department should exist; will be a concern on the platter!

When I was working as an employee...one reputed company's HR department had mis-leaded me in terms of working zone and initially because they assured me to allocate comfortable time zone,,,I said yes but then after joining scenario came as a shocking surprise where I was transferred to adverse time zone where I was not keen! This is one example I am giving but then we are able to observe lot of hue and cry in many organizations with respect to HR department as a whole. I see that when recruitment process is being delegated to some different referencing companies, people do a referencing call quite casually and the information which is expected to be extracted can not get fetched in the right manner and then....we know how chaotic the recruitment process becomes!!!!

Every human is selfish in the first place but then in the corporate world while defining multitasking processes for various departments, can we have more dynamic policies for HR where balancing selfishness and giving approach will be maintained?

Till now in my journey as a  life coach or even as a finance manager, I have rarely seen HR people showing appropriate concerns for the people because for them target driven strategy is inevitable but humanly aspect with a giving attitude can not be forgotten by these people; should be imbibed in their minds! Theory of relativity will be surely extended by opinionating here but will that remove the dust which is there over the eyes of HRs???? HRs are not objects but an objective to glorify humanly aspect because without human nothing can happen and in the first place they are humans irrespective of HR degrees!!!!
These are my experiences in real time...rest is a respectful journey! Opinions are welcome!


Blessed Self!

Mull over! Regards,

Amit Deokule
Life Balance Coach
Master Spirit Life Coach
Member Of CCA, Canada
Professional Musician